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My DD hasn't been honest about homework assignments, so it was decided at her IEP that she must write them in her planner and have the teachers sign it... what the heck do I do when she "forgets" to write things down and have the teachers sign?
I'm thinking maybe she can give us a quarter for each missing signature, since this quickly resolved her unorganized backpack, the problem is she doesn't have any money right now since she is working off her debt of 200 for the vet bill after poisoning the dog...
If she has money and that worked before, that sounds good
What about one extra bit of 'homework' (set by you) for every bit of homework she 'forgets' to write down? So trying to get out of it gets her double?
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Yep, extra homework when she forgets. If you print up a bunch of worksheets from her most hated class (math, handwriting, whatever) and have her do those for twice as long as homework normally takes her - that ought to do it. There's never a guarantee, but it ought to.
Plus, make sure the teacher knows you support whatever consequence she gets at school for not having her homework done.
I've done the extra homework - "If you're not choosing to bring your homework, then I'll choose." I've also sent my son back to school to get it. We lived close enough that it's inconvenient, but not a hardship. Although this year he's in middle school - so far he's taking responsibility!!
Thanks for the advice! We decided to add our own "homework" of writing lines: "I will write my (subject) assignments in my agenda and have (teacher's name) sign it" 20 times for each subject. Then once the homework shows up, she can complete that too. I'm hoping her actual homework will be a privilege at that point!
If it is in her IEP, then the teacher must make sure she has it written down. Put it back on the teacher.
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Rue5LX
We decided to add our own "homework" of writing lines: "I will write my (subject) assignments in my agenda and have (teacher's name) sign it" 20 times for each subject.
Sounds effective, but what if you have her work ahead in her school books or do extra assignments in subjects that she struggles with? Or have her write a few paragraphs about the topics that they're working on in class? Or (if she's old enough) you could have her work on general life skills like budgeting, checkbooks, tipping, meal planning, etc.
Then instead of busy work, her punishment will help her get ahead too, and it will be just as inconvenient for her.
Just a thought. Good luck!
EdyDedd
Sounds effective, but what if you have her work ahead in her school books or do extra assignments in subjects that she struggles with? Or have her write a few paragraphs about the topics that they're working on in class? Or (if she's old enough) you could have her work on general life skills like budgeting, checkbooks, tipping, meal planning, etc.
Then instead of busy work, her punishment will help her get ahead too, and it will be just as inconvenient for her.
Just a thought. Good luck!
Thanks for the idea, Edy! I'll look into those ideas if this one doesn't work. Her go-to excuse for EVERYTHING is "I forgot". So, I'm hoping that writing it 20 times will help her "remember"!
How long does it usually take for her to do her homework?
I'd add on that she does some sort of academic work that's boring for at least that amount of time on the nights that she "forgets" and then on the weekend, she has to do the homework that she "forgot" during the week. Makes life inconvenient, but hopefully she'll hate it enough to not do it anymore.
Unless she really does forget? Then it would be strategizing on how to get her to remember.
Please please...dont make it about consequence when she doesn't. Make it about a reinforcer when she does. I work with behaviour, have studied behaviour and use behaviour mod on a daily basis. Make it about the positives!!!!!!
It works so much better!
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