22 years ago and he is searching for me, I'm a birthmom

I ran across your post and I can see this is weighing heavily on your heart, which is completely understandable. Just know that their bond being stronger in the beginning is perfectly natural. It is easier to relate to your own generation and to open up and bond with them faster. He may have grown up as an only child (not sure if you mentioned whether he had other siblings within his adoptive family) and if so he probably spent a good portion of his childhood wishing for siblings. This will cause a wave of euphoria when his dreams are finally a reality. Though he is probably ecstatic to have found you he grew up with a mother so to him there was not a completely empty void there that needed to be filled. You and his adoptive mother hold different spots in his heart but it is still the same family unit in a sense. Also the fact that you are a generation ahead of him may make it slightly harder for him to open up and show the same emotions and bonding right away. He also may feel that it will upset his adoptive mother on some level if he bonds too much with you. These are all perfectly natural and understandable fears or concerns when it comes to meeting a birthparent and trying to find a happy blend of two families. With time he will realize that you are not there to replace his other mom and that she doesn't feel threatened by your presence and that it is ok for him to open up and form that everlasting relationship with you like he is doing with his siblings. It is great that y'all have found each other and this is the beginning of an amazing journey. Try not to let this cast a shadow over the joys of being reunited. When it does seem overwhelming talk to your husband, he is already your support in this situation, don't be afraid to lean on him during these times. It is wonderful that you have him and your family during this time. Just remember that as confusing as this is for you or if it feels like it is a difficult time, your birthson is probably even more overwhelmed at the moment. He is much younger and may have questions running through his mind that he is afraid to ask and scared to hear the answers to. He will bond with his siblings and that will strengthen the bond he has with you. Let God work his magic and all will fall in to place. (I realize your post is about a month old and some things may have already changed drastically--hopefully they have for the better) Congrats on your reunion and best of luck with this new journey in life!!!