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We just adopted him last month. No one ever saw him for visits and never asked. But one time just before tpr they all showed up. Never asked for a goodbye visit or oa nothing. Now they called agency asking if they can see him. I want to take it really slow. I would love to have pictures of him before I got him. So what do you guys think facebook? Or something like snapfish that I can see if they are looking at them. Down side they can not down load and they will not share. Any ideas out there? Also right now not willing to do visits. We want to do facebook or something and updates 1st and see how it goes.
Thanks
I've been having luck with a shutterfly share site that I set up. It is viewable by members only, and I am the only one who can add members.
As the owner of the site, you can see when each member last logged into the site.
I post updates, pictures, and videos of my son for his bm and bd, and they can look at them, comment on them, ask questions, etc.
They really seem to like it.
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I second JMD. I use FB, but I really know the bios well after several years. We started with only a PO Box. You can control Shutterfly so much better than FB.
Thanks I will look into it. Worker come out to my house to talk to me about what the family wants. Demands are high phone calls, monthly visits sleepovers and pictures. Worker suggested we get a p o box. I told the worker that we will send pictures and gave them some to pass along. I will send more to the agency to send to them. That is it at this time. If you look at my other posts the agency gave them my number and know where we live. Than said they will not know we adopted wanted us to do nat adopt day we ended moving it up did not want to be on tv. Now to find out they told them anyway we adopted him. They did tell did tell them sleepover for weekend and monthly visits would not happen but would ask me. You have to laugh or get really pissed off they family wanted phone call and told them how I could block my number. I just laughed. I do not know how to do that and do not want to know how. Sorry all over the place. Oh and they used it is Christmas too. Thanks again
Yeah, my son's bm asks for phone calls, and I have told her no each time she asks, for multiple reasons.
I am toying with the idea of getting a po box for communication, but I seriously doubt it would be used. My daughter's bm doesn't contact us at all, and my son's bps would likely never sit down, write a letter, and mail it, so I'd be paying for a po box for no reason.
How old is your son? I cannot believe they are asking for overnight visits! Wow. Even my son's bps don't ask for that, although bm did offer (when she lived in the area) that I could drop him off with her whenever I wanted, for the weekend. Haha.
He is 2 1/2 and we have a bio son 4. The bps are not around. It is extended family. I just do not understand how you can go from doing nothing and now after adoption wanting everything. We will see how this goes and next step will be p o box and shutterfly. If we get there.
I could see some of our placements parents if it went adoption asking me for that. We would see them at visits and medical app.
You know that is a good point about the reason for not getting the p o box. I do not even know if they can do that.
It is crazy you never know what bps or family will ask next still in foster care or adopted.
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