In Need of Some Help!!!!

Hi Valerie, I am so sorry that you have lost your dad. Then to find out you were adopted - wow. I cannot believe they never told you. Your original birth certificate was amended when the adoption was done. Based on what state you may be able to get it but there are only a handful of states that are open. Your step / adoptive mom is not being helpful or you haven't approached her? Was your dad married before? Based on the era if he wasn't then your dad may not have been listed either and either had to adopt you as well, or get paternity established. Hard to explain but until the early to mid 70's if a father wasn't married he didn't have rights and was not listed on the original birth certificate. Sorry I can't be of any help but without some info it is hard to tell you want limited options you have. Kind regards,Dickons

Thanks, but it is a complicated situation. From what I've been told by my mom (stepmom) is that he was indeed married before her and I also know that he has other kids. From what she has told me, the other kids where taken away from them ( my father and his 1st wife), my assumtion is that I am also one of these kids but they decided to keep me because I was the baby. It's hard to piece the past together because me and my step mom are not on good terms at all since my fathers death. She has choosen to exclude me and basically disown me and keep from any of the insurance and his belongings that he left behind. She has basically shown that she was acting like a loving wife and mom while he was alive only to switch to a horrible, selfish, cold hearted person now that he has died. I do have a copy of my birth certificate and they are my birth parents listed and it also states I was born in Evanston, Illinois. I am assuming she adopted me after they got married in 1984 and I guess he had to also go through the same process. I do plan on talking to some of my fathers family in order to not only notify them of his death because she (my step mom) did not even let them know, but to also see what information they might be able to give me. I appreciate any and all information you are able to give me.Thanks,Valerie

Good luck with your search.

Talk to a lawyer and get copy of the will. Financial exclusion is wrong. I would hope that your father made provisions to insure your well being in his will. If not, contest it. It's amazing how cruel people can be. I am sorry you have to go through this. I would indeed contact some of your father's family. They would certainly have some information that would help you.

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