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My partner and I are in central CA. We just finished our classes but have hardly begun the paperwork for the homestudy.
But we look at kids online almost every day (time would probably be better spent just doing the paperwork but we get distracted!). We're open to some legal risk and are wide open to ages and sibling groups. I think this is why we're fumbling around so much. We're trying to get a sense of what kind of match we're looking for.
Last night, we were pouring over the sibling groups of 3 or 4 and trying to figure out what we'd do if we only had a 3BR house but had 3 girls and 1 boy or vice versa (and God help us if we fall in love with 5 kids--we don't have the room for that!). Tonight, we revisited the profile of a teen getting close to aging out who just makes our hearts melt (if we adopted one at a time, how long do we have to wait between adoptions?). We're all over the map!
I was hoping to connect with some CA adoptive families, especially in the central coast area. Or maybe it would be good to hear from others who also struggled to identify what a good match looks like in terms of ages and number of children.
Thanks for sharing!
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Hi, I'm not Central Coast area but I've smack dab in the middle of three counties. LOL We were just placed with our match and are hoping to adopt. I think it's great you want to take a sibling group and depending on your level of experience with children and the time you have available it could work. You have to factor in a ton of one on one time with each child, possibly therapy appointments, visits (even in low legal risk cases) which could mean visits with bio mom or several bio dads. I can tell you that it's time consuming. Also, even if they are siblings remember that each child's emotional needs are going to be different. They may be going in different directions at all times. We chose to go for two girls and were placed with twin girls. Hurry and finish up your paperwork because the children are out there. Then go to your classes and really get a feel for what needs you know you could meet and realistically how many children you would feel comfortable with. The classes help a lot!
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