Dreaming

Blush, Sometimes dreams do happen, especially when we don't give up on them. It's completely possible that your dreams can happen too. Things don't have to stay the way they are, and they certainly don't have to get worse! Do you know if your adoption went through county children's services? Like The Childrens Home Society? Do you know if it was a private agency? Or if you were ever in foster care? Step one is usually getting in touch with the agency, county or state, and request non-identifying information about your original family. Sometimes that information can be very helpful in a search. Sometimes the non-id can answer many of your general questions too. Plus, your original family may have left a document in your file with their contact info saying they want to be contacted by you. I have to tell you about two friends of mine. Both in crappy relationships with psycho jealous and controlling men who treated them like property of little value. Both got online...... One found a job on a cruise ship. Her first contract was for almost 9 months, with great pay, free room and food. She found a ride from VA to FL on craigslist. For a week or two she slowly packed what she wanted to take with her, and put stuff she wanted to keep in storage at a friends house. She left lots behind, but it's just stuff you can buy again ya know. She packed so slowly and carefully that he didn't notice what was going on. As planned one morning, when butthead left for work, she got her stuff and caught her ride and hasn't looked back. She told me the work isn't much fun at all, but on her days off she's usually somewhere in the Caribbean on some tropical island surrounded by vacationers having fun, and inviting her to join in. And the worse it gets is a day or two in Fort Lauderdale FL. That was two years ago. She's doing great now, financially and emotionally, and has met many good friends from all over the world. My other friend, who gets too seasick for all of that LOL Found a situation on Craigs List for a live-in helper for an elderly couple. It's worked great for her, and them, for over a year now. I hope you keep an eye out for a situation that could get you out of what you are in. Go for it, what do you have to loose? I bet you something comes along your way, and you might see it if you are paying attention. Especially if you get out there and want it to happen, make it happen. :hippie:

I believe if you want to get out you will find a way. Do you work outside the home? One thing I would be careful about is putting all my eggs in one basket in that I wouldn't count on meeting your birth family and expecting that somehow this will be your answer. It might be but putting all that investment in an unknown situation might be too big a risk. Make a plan. What do you mean he treats you like property? If you have have been living together for some time it will take an effort to gain the confidence but it's worth it. It might help to find some information about what's out there for you in Florida by going there and checking it out by yourself. How far away is it for you?

Thanks from my heart for the wisdom. No, the grocery store went out of business. (I did work). I don't have a vehicle, I have almost no assets.(3 pets). I have thought about rejection, But I've prepared my head, been through that lot's. I live in Illinois, Where my adoptive family are from, Hopefully they will provide some help. I've already taken some baby- steps.

Sorry, new to this. I have taken the first step about getting non-identifying info

:banana: Thanks for uplifting my hopes and thanks for the advice!

:banana: Thanks for uplifting my Hopes and thanks for the advice

I would start revamping my resume. Include everything that would make you an asset. That's the first step. If you can find a way I would try to make my way to Florida to do some soul searching....a taste of freedom/seeking out a situation for employment and or housing. Life has a way of providing if you are determined. How about looking into transporting a vehicle for example. If you drive there are also sorts of people who don't want to be bothered with driving their car down. Lots of people come home for the holidays etc and return back. There are also people who would give you a lift for gas. Think outside the box. It might do you a world of good to go down there and poke around.