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So this is a very non-typical adoption and I have some questions.
We are an unmarried heterosexual couple that is very financially secure and stable (10 years solid without fights, breakups yadda yadda). We do not believe in marriage and do not ever want to be married. We act married and refer to each other as husband and wife. I have a baby on the way via another woman (my wife is fine with how it happened consented though a baby was not part of the equation at the time) and the bio mother does not want my child. She already had a child 5 years ago and did not want to keep that one but was pressured into keeping it by her family. She claims that if she could go back and change it she would have given it up for adoption but since she and her son(not from me) are now emotionally attached she is keeping him. She does not want our baby (due in June) and couldn't care for it if she did. I as well as my wife(remember, not my wife in the eyes of the law) do want the child. Bio-mom wants to just give us the baby and not even look at it (I say "it" because gender is not known yet) right after she delivers it. She wants as little contact as possible with the child so as to minimize her emotional anguish.
Here is where My worries start.
1st. Will the hospital even let me take my baby home? I've checked the Florida statutes and they seem to indicate that bio-mom has to wait 2 days to give up her parental rights. But that doesn't mean I have to wait 2 days to take MY baby home right? I am taking care of all expenses of course.
2nd. What's involved with my wife adopting the child legally? I notice that statutes in Florida seem to indicate only a single unmarried person or a married couple can adopt. From what research on the net I've done it seams this statute was placed on the books in the 70s as an anti-gay law to keep homosexuals from adopting. In 2007 said law was ruled unconstitutional in Florida by the Florida courts ([url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_re:_Gill]In re: Gill - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia[/url]). So where does this put my spouse as the unmarried homosexual couple bit was ruled out by the courts?
3rd. Assuming she can adopt, how is it done? What is required? This is an independent adoption.
Any help or pointing in the right direction is greatly appreciated as this seems to be a very non-typical case.
I am seeing a family law attorney but want to do my own research as much as possible as she charges by the hour to talk to me. Plus, I like to see things in black and white with my own eyes. My mother is an attorney (doesn't do family law) and I know from experience that many attorneys make mistakes. So you can't just take what ever they tell you as the truth.
Many thanks :thanks:
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