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The important parts of my story are as follows: I made a plan, with chosen parents, as of 4 months pregnant. It was an independent adoption; we had separate lawyers. It was a plan I made because I didn't have any other options. At the time, all of us were living in Georgia, but I knew I would need living expense assistance, and Georgia's laws don't allow for adoptive parents to provide birth parents with that... so I moved to California and in with a friend, so we could use California law to conduct that aspect of the adoption. My lawyer is in California, theirs is in Georgia.
Six weeks prior to giving birth, my situation changed. I got very very lucky, all of a sudden, and would be able to care for my daughter. I got scared, though. I tried to ask my lawyer what would happen if I decided to keep my baby... her response was "well, it would be complicated, we would have to find a way to go get the baby, but let's not worry about that, because that's not going to happen". I tried to tell the adoptive parents while we were in the hospital that I had something that I needed to explain to them, but they (trying to be kind) told me I didn't have to explain anything and that I shouldn't feel forced to talk about anything. I even tried to tell my lawyer AGAIN when she brought me the TPR... I said "my situation changed, I'd be able to keep the baby now" and all she said was "wow, that's so unexpected, huh? okay, here's this paper for you to sign."
At the time I initially made decisions about the adoption, I didn't want more time to revoke than I had to. In Georgia, the law is 10 days; in California, the law is 30 days. I opted for Georgia, before I knew anything would change. My Georgia time period is up. We did use one aspect of California law, though, to allow for expenses... and my California time period is NOT up.
This is my 2nd child placed for adoption (first child is now 6), and I am 100% sure it was the wrong decision. I am biologically unable to have more children, and I would be able to support this baby just fine. I was too scared to "really" speak up firmly, because I thought the adoptive parents would sue me for expenses and legal fees and all kinds of stuff, and when I asked my lawyer, she would never give me a real answer. Even if they do sue me, at this point it doesn't matter.
Is there a way to still revoke my TPR? All paperwork was aligned with Georgia law except for the allowance of expenses. Are there loopholes? Is there any hindrance I can claim?
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