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Okay we decided to go OPPLA. These visits were killing us and even though the goal was reunification on paper no one was following it. Well guess what? Now everyone got a BIG wake up call. She has been sexting, stealing, posting nude photos of herself on the net etc. The REAL child has come out. Now they KNOW how bad they screwed up and how this child has manipulated EVERYONE and they did NOT do their jobs.
We had a very nice ""good-bye"" visit. WE thought it would be mean and quick but it went VERY well and we stayed an hour and a half. We just went at it as we were going to support her in her goals of becoming an independent adult and not fight her on it and visits were only creating stress etc and we still loved her,she still was still our daughter but she wasn't going to return home. She was getting her wishes granted. WE also told her alot of this was NOT our family's fault and alot of people did NOT do their job such as the county attorney and the GAL. She even said she would like to ask our county attorney why she did what she did etc. We cried, she cried etc. The worker offered to let us come to the next case plan. We found out the foster family are the ones who blocked our entire family from our daughters facebook without anyone knowing it. We found out the foster family offered our daughter a family, a home etc after she was 18 annd our daughter said no I don't need that. I have a family.
I turned to the worker and said really? THIS is a foster family supporting a reintegration goals? She was like well they are now. I said that's not THEIR call to make! They are NOT the ones making the case plan goal! They are supposed to follow the GOAL.
So the next morning I email the worker and just tell her I knew our daughter was very upset and we were just checking on her. A week goes by and we don't hear anything. So I email her again and I get a very short email that they haven't set the date for the new case plan and she thought DD was having a hard time. So I email her back and say hard time how? Does she need a phone call? Need something from us? etc. She emails me back and says:
She is now wanting to be at home. She had an episode with her MG last week that left her unable to stand. I think it's due to stress.
That was IT. I have called, DH has callled. He totally freaked out. He knows there is no way she can come home but he wants to know how this all came about. Of course still NO reply. Yeesh, our county attorney has done a 180 since she got the court report. She NEVER calls me and she called me and told me the court report just proves no one can control her etc etc. I'm like really? What a total change of tune.
So yeah we are done. We are OPPL and everyone now knows how BAD they screwed up and my poor husband is a freaking MESS!
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Well now its OPPLA so we don't have much say. And she is FAKING the not being able to stand. Yes it happens. She takes her pills. They kick in after an hour and she is able to walk. Now she is using that to manipulate them cause she is in sooo much trouble. We don't have near as much say. WE have requested she be moved and so has she when the goal was reunification. Ya know the thing is her dad told her after the visit NOT to go screw it up at the foster home because even though we loathe them it is a SAFE home and she could go somewhere it is not SAFE and where she could be abused. But it certainly appears we have been lied to yet AGAIN about the OPPLA conditions.
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Yep our state has all but shut RTCs down. We had her screened two weeks before she went into care. Two years ago she would've qualified. Not now. She was in an RTC for an entire year in 7th grade and then 6 months her sophomore year. I agree with you guys but now that it's OPPLA. We don't really have a say anymore.