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I'm wondering if anyone knows any tricks to making contact via Facebook. With Facebook's new "features", messages from people you are not friends with are filtered to an "other" folder and they don't get a notification that they received a message. Apparently, there is occasionally an option to pay $1 to send a message to the person's inbox, but that is not showing up for me. Is there a way to make sure that your message gets sent to the inbox when you aren't their friend? I don't want to add them as a friend given that we're just making initial contact and I can't be 100% sure that this is the right family (though I'm pretty close to that). I can't find other contact information and their Facebook profiles are really private. Any tips would be appreciated.
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I am having the same issue.
I sent a FB message to my B-son's ADad and didn't get the option to send it to his regular inbox for $1 either.
I read all the info FB has about it and I think the only way to get it to their regular inbox is to send a friend request with it.
I will say though that I think it doesn't always go to the other folder. I sent a message to a friend of a friend and she got it fine in her regular inbox and promptly wrote me back.
FB info also said that messages should be marked as "seen" once they have been opened but that doesn't happen consistantly either.
You could always send the "friend request" and then cancel I guess.
I will be interested to hear what other's experiances have been too.
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Hi :) This is my first post, i have been reading and finding some good advice here, so glad to find a place to talk about this and get it out of my head!I have found all of my Biological family on FaceBook. I feel like a total stalker! I just... i'm trying not to romanticize any of this and i know from having met people "in real life" after knowing them just on FaceBook that some people are exactly who they are in person as they are on FB, and some? Should come with a warning label :)Anyway, i realized i needed to stop looking at my aunts and cousins (their pages aren't private, looking at their pix is just so bittersweet!) and decide if i am going to reach out to them or not, sort of "OK, fish or cut bait here!". And i really want so much to know them. But because I don't think they have any idea that my Mom and i exist, that it would freak them out to find out this life-changing info thru FaceBook. Especially when it will end up in the "Other" mailbox, which a lot of us have just recently found. So your mail could sit there for ages and not be seen.I guess i'm saying i don't know that FB is the best way. I do have a friend who was contacted by her biological brother thru MySpace years ago (w/out telling their mutual parent) and she has a relationship with him. I guess you have both looked for Mutual Friends?
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Hi :) This is my first post, i have been reading and finding some good advice here, so glad to find a place to talk about this and get it out of my head!
I have found all of my Biological family on FaceBook. I feel like a total stalker! I just... i'm trying not to romanticize any of this and i know from having met people "in real life" after knowing them just on FaceBook that some people are exactly who they are in person as they are on FB, and some? Should come with a warning label :)
Anyway, i realized i needed to stop looking at my aunts and cousins (their pages aren't private, looking at their pix is just so bittersweet!) and decide if i am going to reach out to them or not, sort of "OK, fish or cut bait here!". And i really want so much to know them. But because I don't think they have any idea that my Mom and i exist, that it would freak them out to find out this life-changing info thru FaceBook.
Especially when it will end up in the "Other" mailbox, which a lot of us have just recently found. So your mail could sit there for ages and not be seen.
I guess i'm saying i don't know that FB is the best way. I do have a friend who was contacted by her biological brother thru MySpace years ago (w/out telling their mutual parent) and she has a relationship with him.
I guess you have both looked for Mutual Friends?
I just payed my dollar 2 days ago, best dollar I have ever spent in my life.
If your message is destined for the "Other" inbox you will be prompted to pay a dollar, if not no prompt.
The way FB decides on whether to charge you is based on a formula that decides if you have any connection. This is determined by how many categories you have in common, note that when you look up a common name like David Smith as an example, it has fields to narrow down from thousands of david smiths to the one you want based on hometown, current town, school attended and the like, these are the criteria used by FB to determine if your message is most likely wanted by the intended recipient or possible spam.
Trust me 1$ is worth it to know one way or another, like I said it was the best dollar I have ever spent.
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You have to click on 'See More' in order to get the option. Like I just went to click on send a message and at the bottom of the message pop up it explains that it will go to their Other box and at the end of that sentence it says 'See More', I just did it and paid and the message has now been read. Now waiting for a response. :/
You have to click on 'See More' in order to get the option.
Like I just went to click on send a message and at the bottom of the message pop up it explains that it will go to their Other box and at the end of that sentence it says 'See More', I just did it and paid and the message has now been read. Now waiting for a response. :/