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We are currently matched. We were matched early and she is currently in her first trimester. I attempted to establish contact but the expectant mother stated that she preferred very little or no contact.
This makes me nervous. Has anyone else experienced this? The social worker and attorney tell me not to worry but I cannot help to worry. What are your thoughts?
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It was our experience that the expectant mothers who did not want contact did not place. That is, we were matched with an emom who didn't want any contact, and she changed her mind before the baby was born. We were matched with another emom who didn't want any contact - except when it came to asking us for money - and she was a scammer.
In my opinion and experience, it's better if you can develop some sort of relationship before and after the baby is born. That way, the emom isn't contemplating giving her baby to strangers, and you can get a better feel for who the emom is and offer her some support.
That's just my two cents.
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We did not have a lot of contact with our emom prior to birth. She followed through with her adoption plan. However, I know from what I read here and from books that matching that early (1st trimester) is not something that is highly recommended. Doesn't mean it never works out but there is alot of things that happen between 1st trimester and after birth. That will be a rollarcoaster for you and emom. Our agency didn't even show profiles to emom until the 8th month after counseling and other things to help emom through the process. Good luck to you.