Do you talk with your siblings about adoption?

Ouch. How old is your younger brother? I hope he can grow to accept that what you're looking for isn't a replacement, simply... an addition. (Or answers, at the very least)It's great that you have such a close relationship with your younger sister. And it's particularly wonderful that you two can support each other through your searching (and hopefully reunions)! I think it really depends on the personalities of the people involved, probably more than whether a sibling is biologically-related or also adopted. At least, that's what my experience indicates. My own sister is also adopted, but she's never had any interest in searching. Never. Not as a teenager, not when she was first pregnant, not now, with two beautiful children of her own. When I began searching last week and found my birth mother's obituary, I called my sister in tears...and she didn't really get why I was crying. It was actually a very awkward conversation for me (and probably for her); I kept struggling to stop my tears because she was so baffled by them. On the flip side, I know her best friend (also adopted) searched for her birth mother years ago, and *her* sister (also adopted) was by her side the whole way.I can sympathize with you on the adoptive-mom-guilt-trip issue. My interest in my birth family has always been an issue between me and my mom. She never understood why I'd want to reach out to my birth family... I guess, since she wasn't adopted, she can't. I'm carrying some anger at her, to be honest - her refusal to give me the information she and my dad had for all these years... well... my recent search ended with my birth mother's obituary. I wish my mom had given me my own birthright years ago, when I wouldn't have been too late....In any case, I'm sure that's another common theme for adopted children. While some adoptive parents are clearly supportive, many are not. It's good that you and your sister can rely on each other through this! :)I'd love to hear other people's take on the sibling issue, though...

My baby brother, D, is similar. I was 2 when our middle bro was born and 5 when baby bro was born, so neither of us really remember not being brother and sister. And why we are brother and sister doesn't matter so much, we just are. Neither of us has a lot of contact with our middle bro, maybe once or twice a year. We talked and joked around a lot about me being adopted since we've been little. It never really touched anything near us not being "real" brother and sister, we were/are. He was the first one I told after I found my families. I said, I found my mother" He said, "Oh, I didn't know she went anywhere?" I said, "No, my other mother" (He forgot) He said, "OH!" in an uncomfortable way. We talked some, but he had his own difficult feelings going on too much to talk about it a lot. I also found another baby brother, M, my father's son. We have become very very close. He's about the same age as my daughter, and SO much like us. After several years of reunion I was in a position to introduce my two baby brothers to each other, at my daughters wedding. I love them both so much. I was shocked at how it hit me, I could barely speak. Both of my brothers "got it" more after that. They were both a little threatened by each other. If I could have split myself in half to hug them both equally in that moment I would have. I actually tried to in my mind LOL Since then both brothers have been able to talk more about it all with me. It's more comfortable now that D knows for sure that I really am and always will be his sister. We've grown so close since my reunion, he is my closest sib. It's easier with brother M too, now he also knows that my other baby brother is my real brother too. He doesn't try to hog me to himself so much anymore, he saw for himself the real that he might not have believed was so real at first. D and I both thought that video of the lion who was taken back into the wild after growing up with humans showed the emotions we went through so well. I think it is Christian the Lion? When the humans went back to see the lion and he remembered them, hugged all over him and showed him his lion family. Corny I know, but that's how it was for us. I can't watch that video without getting overly emotional LOL

I one brother that is adopted and one that is Mom and Dad's bio kid. We don't talk about adoption at all, it just isn't done. I think it might be a little because they are men and we just don't talk about much anyway. They have both met one of my brothers. I have five older siblings that weren't placed for adoption. Only the one is interested in being in contact, so they know him. They came to my baby brother's wedding dance last summer. It was just a oh yeah, kinda weird that you are introducing me to your brother thing and that was that. I don't expect much interaction between them. There isn't much interaction between any of us anyway, so throw that in, probably not happening.