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Well we had the case plan 9 days ago and boy did they renig. our lawyer was soooo mad. They changed it totally when they got to court. I guess our worker is pissed at us because she went to town on the stand. She said we had NOT taken the visits they offered us (even though they agreed all needed a break) she said she felt we were all uncomfortable together when we got together. She said our first two therapy sessions were finger pointing sessions although she has not talked to our therapist or us. No reports have been requested from the therapist. She said that we want her to think we are working on our relationship but we are not. REallly? What would be the benefit to faking that? She also said she felt our therapist was BIASED even though she has not spoke to our therapist since the initial case plan. When we complained about the court reports she conveyed she would do a better job of conveying our involvement on the stand. Well she totally bashed us. Our lawyer was shocked. So they made it OPPLA even though that is not what was decided at the case plan. She told the court the case plan is family driven and she could not object until court. REally? cause at the first one we were not allowed to say a WORD.
I am sorry but I am done. I will NOT work with the agency and let them attack us and make us the bad guy. They have alienated us from them and our daughter so I sure hope the worker is prepared to be there for Christin after she is 18. We will NOT attend any more case plans nor any more court hearings. We got screwed by the agency and that is that.
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My husband is mad and we are fighting. He says I am using this as an excuse not to do therapy anymore. Why would I want to do therapy when I have to watch what I say for fear it will be reported to the worker and she will report it to the court as factual on my daughter's hearsay. I am sorry he wants to not lose his daughter but this is causing so much emotional distress etc. I don't see how therapy is going to help anyway. You usually go discuss things and work on them at home. We can't do that and now all trust is GONE with the agency. That is NOT my fault!
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I keep following your story. I have a 12 yr old tough at times RAD daughter. She can be great though but really hard to see you struggling with your daughter. When is she 18? Do you have any other adopted kiddos? Do you do foster care still, or ever? Not sure if you were foster to adopt or what. Also, how old was your daughter when she came to you?
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