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I initiated contact with my natural family members a little over a month ago. Their response was positive and encouraging. Unfortunately, my birth mother passed away about two weeks after. Now I am unsure of how often to try to communicate with my birth siblings. Any suggestions?
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I'm so sorry for your loss.Like Kakuehl said above, I'm not sure that there's one definite answer to your question. Contact has to be based on what feels "right" to you - and to them. Obviously, they're going through a difficult time right now, having just lost their mother. And you may well have your own grief to work through as well. (My search brought me to my birth mother's obituary, so I'm familiar with that sort of grief.)The best advice I can offer is to take it slow. Make the effort to reach out, but keep it light for now - in such an emotionally-charged time, they simply might not have the focus or clarity for deep, lengthy discussions. Definitely let them know that you do want to build a relationship with them (I'm assuming that's what you want, since you want to keep communicating), but don't push. Just let them know you are there.I hope that you can all come through the depths of this sad time and create a strong sibling relationship over time. Good luck.