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Just wanted to give an update on my son's visit. For those not familiar with my story, we were reunited a few years ago and met face-to-face for the first time in April of 2011. We've been in regular contact (phone/email/text) ever since, but we were both in huge transitions last year and he does not live near me, so we were not able to get together again until now.
This time, he came to visit me and stayed with me! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
I was nervous about it, because our first visit was a mixed bag of so many different emotions, both wonderful and challenging. And at first, he was telling me he wanted to stay for a week, but then was dragging his feet with getting his flights arranged, and shortened the trip considerably (came in on Monday morning, left on Thursday morning). I think perhaps he got nervous about staying here with me and wanted to have a shorter visit rather than a longer one not knowing if we'd get on each others' nerves (LOL!!).
Well, I have to say, the visit could not have gone any better. We really had such a wonderful time, and did a lot of things in my city, but the things I cherished the most were just hanging out at my place, making dinner for him, talking, listening to and playing music, and I know it sounds goofy, but at one point, he needed some clothes ironed and was going to do it himself, but I wanted to iron them for him, and it felt so nice just to do some "mom" things for him (I have no other children, so this was especially meaningful for me).
He seemed really comfortable here. The first night, after dinner, he even dozed off on my couch, and it darned-near took my breath away watching him sleep. I was worried he would be weirded out if he woke up and found me staring at him sleeping, but I haven't seen him sleep since he was a newborn and I held him in my arms, and I couldn't take my eyes off of him. To have him in my home, sleeping on my couch was just so surreal. I never imagined I would have this experience, even though I always knew in my heart and soul we would be reunited.
The other thing that was so cool is, I'm enrolled in a shiatsu course, and my son let me give him some bodywork. I cannot tell you what an amazing thing it was for me to have this experience with him. Another thing is, I had some pressing things to take care of at work, which required me to go into the office briefly, and I brought him up with me. Only two people at my office know about my son, but I said heck with it, I'm bringing him up there. We talked about this, and how only a few people knew at work, and he was OK with going there with me and just introducing him by his first name if anyone asked. But after I came back to work, a few people asked who he was, and I told them he was my son. It's pretty funny because a number of people thought he was some young hottie I was DATING!! LOL!!!! I was always so nervous about "coming out" to people at work, but it just felt good to have it be so non-chalant, and so far, those who I told have been really understanding.
The only real difficulty for me is that it was very hard to say goodbye to him, and I'm missing him very much. It seems like more emotions came up for me with this visit than the first one. I also think he might be feeling some strong emotions, because I emailed him after he got back home, telling him how much I enjoyed his visit, etc., and he hasn't yet responded to that message. I plan to give him a call in a week or two and just feel him out a bit, but I hope it wasn't overwhelming for him to spend this time together. It didn't seem like he was uncomfortable at all while he was here, but I imagine there are still things he may be needing to process about the whole experience.
Anyway, I haven't been on the forums so much lately, but just wanted to give an update, especially to those who know my story and have been following over the years.
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awesome Peachy. I could relate to so much of your post. I remember my bdaughter taking a nap on one of her early visits and looking in the room and just watching. I remember saying to my Aunty...that's the first time I have seen my daughter asleep. I was happy that she had felt relaxed enough to have an afternoon sleep!!! Precious moments!!!
LOL, I love the dancing banana!
I actually did hear from my son yesterday via email, and he said it was a great visit, and he felt it was the perfect mix of sightseeing and relaxing at home, and that he wished he could have stayed longer. He kind of brought up my office move as the reason, but actually, I told him ahead of time I would work around that and had planned to take the whole week off regardless. In any case, I'm so happy to have had even a short visit with him. The thing I'm struggling with now is just having him be away again. I miss him so much, and it is really hitting me harder this visit than my first one. And I don't know when we will be able to see each other again. I don't want to wait over 2 years, for sure, but I'm not sure when he'll want to get together again. I wish there was a way we could have more regular contact and that he lived closer to me.
He did mention that we should chat on the phone this week and touch base with everything, and I have such a busy week ahead of me that I called him yesterday evening. I had a rough day with the first day at my new office (which is a pile of poo in a crappy location and I'm very upset about it), and it was just so nice to hear his voice and recap our visit. Still...so hard to let go...
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