Out of State Adoption - At the hotel waiting for labor!

Wanted to tell you about last night in case anyone else ends up in our position. We've been going crazy waiting in this hotel. Yes, we've been to the movies, eaten out and read books... All the things people with kids say we will miss so much. Of course, all we can think about is baby and how nuts this is, so we haven't really enjoyed anything... It is NOT the same as a vacation! ... Wish my friends with kids got it. Anyways, last night our birthmom invited us over for dinner with her family. We were so nervous and hoping she'd just go into labor before that;-) but no luck... We went over to her family's house and had the MOST WONDERFUL evening that was totally worth coming in town for this long. I think it did alot to give everyone peace. Her grandmother made a nice meal and fussed over us, we got to Skype with other family members who were excited to meet us, share the anticipation with her family and it gave them the opportunity to see our excitement. We've been spending time with the BMom, but it was fantastic to get to be with her family too. I know they say that a common feeling post placement is guilt bc you realize just how much everyone else gave up so that you could have. I think last night was a way for all involved to know we have one another's blessing. And what a great story to share with DD when she finally gets here!

I think its so wonderful that you are connecting with birth mom and her family. I had the same type of guilt but it turned into gratitude really quickly and although I have never experienced being matched before birth I have can relate to the anxiety of waiting.My other mother friends LOL just don't get it. Hang in there and it will be over soon enough! Keep us posted

That is great news!! I think fear of the unknown almost always worse than the reality. We are exactly 6 1/2 days away from the scheduled c-section of Emom, and I am a nervous wreck, so I can only imagine what you are both going through! You should be proud of the courage and strength that both you and your DH displayed in going to dinner, but also the bio families in inviting you! This is a quality I hope passes on, as it is so important in life. I hope you get to meet baby girl very soon, and would love updates, since we will be in your shoes next week! Good luck!:cheer:

It's important for everyone to realize that a due date is a best guess, not an expiration date. Our DD's birthmom delivered all of her previous children a few weeks early, and she was sure DD was going to go the same route. Fortunately, she didn't want us at the hospital for the birth, and we, having been at the hospital for DS's birth and that having gone very badly, didn't really want to be there. She was due October 30th. DD was born October 25th. So, not very early at all! When DS was born, his bmom scheduled an induction (her choice), and she wanted us to be there, so we did come into town a few days early and had some time to get to know her and her family prior to DS being born. I do think there was value in that. With DD, we had to hang around for 2 weeks post-birth, so we spent some time with her bmom and b-granddad. Good luck to all! :hippie:

Yes, obviously no one knows when babies will actually come. If anyone else gets confused like we did, here's how we ended up here: On our attorneys advice we booked a rocket around her due date. Since our match, BM was convinced she was coming early. In fact for the first week we talked to her (we are only matched 5 weeks ago), everyone kept telling us she was due in 3 weeks. It wasn't until we got the medical records that we saw her due date was further. It was difficult to get info on why she s saying differently. Everything was a little vague. Anyways, almost every other day since our match she's texted me that it might be today, etc. So you can imagine we were anxious to get here by her due date. When the time for our actual flight came, we really weren't sure whether to come or not, and our lawyer told us to come. Fast forward, we a week past the due date and ate now considering going home. We'll see what her doctor has to say today. I get the impression she wants us to leave bc were staying her out being here. Or lawyer told us or response should be "were not going anywhere bc we are so excited about this baby." Totally confusing, expensive and exhausting.

While we weren't spending $ on hotels and stuff, we were in the same boat as you - we were staying at my parents because it was a doable drive once she went into labor. She was adamant about me being in delivery room to take baby out of room but she didn't want to be induced. So we waited and waited and waited. I can't imagine burning through $ but we did go through vacation time and some of our sanity. LOL. She was approaching a week past due, then they have an induce date of another week away so we left to go home. We were home 4 days when we got the call at 9am that she was on the hospital by the hospital staff. We raced across four states and made it. I was in the room 1 hour before baby was born. We will never "wait it out" again. Good for you for finding the positive and yes, it will all be worth it once the baby is placed!I also wanted to add that we were given 4 different due dates - OB due date, bio due date, a medical record due date from first OB before agency got involved and then agency due date. LOL