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I was wondering how adoptees feel about this situation..
What if you found out that your birthparents got married but still chose to give you up and remained married for many years but didn't have any other children?
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I'm not an adoptee but I did relinquish a child 30years ago.
Off the top of my head, the following scenarios come to mind.
1) they suffer from secondary infertility which is common among women who relinquish their first child.
2) they won't allow themselves to have another child over unresolved issues from relinquishing their child.
3) they didn't want to be parents at all.
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I've just found my birthparents (both deceased unfortunately) and learned that they got married some years after giving me up for adoption. She was only 19 at the time and was pressured by her parents to turn to adoption.
It actually made me very happy that this was the case. I know I was born of a loving relationship and they also had 2 more kids after getting married so I have 2 full sisters out there that I hope to get to meet someday.
My birth parents also married approximately 2 years after I came along. They went on to have two sons my brothers. I am pretty sure that this caused my birthmother to have some issues. It's unfortunate they couldn't get it together when I came along but there were unresolved issues I suppose.
I wasted a long time wondering about what life may have been like but after getting to know my birthmother's real character; I am fortunate I got out when I did.