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Well today was our very first class of RAPT1 and I have to say that I am still dumbfounded short an sweet of how that went.
Licensing worker: There is also certain things you should steer clear off....never ever show eagerness for TPR remember the main thing here is RU.
Class: (nodding)
Licensing Worker: Do not bad mouth parents to CW they have a lot on their plate unless is issues regarding the child for example one case went like this (I don't know about you guys but I can tell she is using it's obvious she doesn't care for the child.....)
Class: (nodding)
Licensing Worker: Another thing for the love of god do not and we have a case like this do not for ANY REASON BREAST FEED SOMEONE ELSES CHILD.
Class: What???????
Me: Oh my gawd that is not right?
Licensing Worker: trust me we have seen them all.
Ok seriously how often those stuff like this happen and what happens to those foster parents?
Oh oh don't get me started on the couple next to me and DH (Everyone even the Licensing workers noticed the reason they are there ($$$$$) as if :rolleyes:
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I know of a lactation consultant who advocates for breastfeeding of infants in foster care. In many countries, that would be a given. But it is definitely a no-no here. We also had a woman in our classes that had no business being there. I hoped over and over again that the people giving the class would make sure she never got licensed. It wasn't about money, but there was no doubt that she would not be able to uphold "the rules" of fostering.It is *really* hard not to badmouth certain parents to other adults in the know of the situation. We have had something come up with our current case. I have to deal with the repercussions but not give my OPINION to the CW, just the facts. THEN, she wants me to share what happened with the GAL and therapist. Again, I know it needs to be facts, not opinion. Here (in general) reunification happens 2/3 of the time and 2/3 of those work out. It would be dumb to expect to adopt any particular set of kids who walk through the door. At the same time, it simply is near impossible not to think about it eventually. You love the kids, there is a good fit, and you want your family to grow. You start thinking about whether to keep the names they are called, new middle names, etc. You start thinking about school options and sports teams and baptism and and and...As for what happens to these foster parents? Probably nothing. Or a slap on the wrist. CW will be a bit short with a know-it-all foster parent undermining RU, sharing less information, being in a hurry, using a transporter, etc. She may feel the need to remind you over and over about RU goal. She may decide that SHE will never put another child in your home and asked about it won't recommend you to another CW (btw, I got Monkey in part because of another CW's referral so it can work *for* you also). There might be some minimum standard against breastfeeding (or one that could be used against it?). An additional training might be required. A form signed? Really, it wouldn't be much. Of course, if it gets licensing into the house, they may find other issues.Hopefully, you and your classmates will be great foster parents :)
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