Why resent interests in common?

I would like to ask a question of adoptees on the forum please. This may sound like a strange question but have any of you struggled with comparing yourself unfavourably to your birth mother? This question is mainly for the ladies I guess. For instance, my birth daughter in early reunion seemed to resent it when I talked about things I was interested in (which we actually had in common). I showed her photos taken during my life after her relinquishment, and she commented I was much prettier than she was in a prickly way. She is interested in photography and writing, which I am too (unprofessionally in a small way). When I offered to show her my travel photos she acted dismissively, but I could see in her face that she wanted to see them. Similarly, when I wrote some prose to her about waves at the beach in the morning (nothing threatening) I didnt get a response at all. She has since said that I had ғexpectations us being soul mates. I think that she prides herself as the independent individual within her adoptive family Ԗ the one who is always taking off travelling and trying to be a published writer and photographer. I was only trying to connect with her and encourage her in what she wants to do as a career but it seemed to back fire. She once called me after months of silence told me her news and when I started telling her about my latest trip she sounded irritated, said the connection was bad and hung up! It would be interesting to hear your thoughts on what you think may have been triggering her negitive responses?