pregnant again, (foster parent ,not bio)

I told my worker fairly early on about my pregnancy and was clear I was NOT closing my home and still available for placements. Although, in the end, it didn't matter because I m/c'd. If I had the least little bit of doubt that my worker would not honor my desire to keep my home open, I'd keep quiet until well into the 2nd trimester.

if that was me and I was told it was a high risk pregnancy, I'd put the expected bio ahead of keeping home open for foster. I guess the decision all should be based on why it's high risk and the amount of support that's available for helping with any fosters that may be placed should she be put on bed rest etc. It would be irresponsible to take placements if she would have to disrupt if the pregnancy gets to complicated, which sounds like it's already rough if she isn't feeling well. How far along is she?

IMO, it really depends what "high risk" means. If it means she's older, or just at somewhat elevated risk of miscarriage... Then I don't think that should interfere. But if high risk means "you'll be bedridden for 6 months," then that matters for fostering. It's my understanding that both cases are "high risk" in some circles. I also favor being upright with the SW, unless the worker is known for being difficult. I'd say the answer is the same whether she is single or not, for the most part, but obviously when you have a partner you can parent even with a higher degree of physical impairment. Of course, if you have family/other support even if single, this is true as well, so really support matters more than partnership.

Personally I don't think it's anyone's business to know. This is her life and it's her choice as to when to tell anyone. I do agree with PP though that it would depend on how high risk she is. Bed rest high risk deserves more notice than you have GD and need to take extra good care of your diet and exercise. If she knows she will likely be on bedrest then I'm thinking it would be unfair to bring a little into the mix. Still, her choice to tell when she wants.

Does she have someone in the home that could take care of the child if she is placed on bed rest? IMO it would be irresponsible to accept a placement without being able to see it through if she knows she is high risk. She also has to think about the baby, and she cannot risk hurting him/her for the sake of fostering. I get that it is no one's business what she does with her life, but it is not about her, it is about the foster kiddos that have already had a rough life and do not need anything else to deal with at this point. First rule of being mommy is putting the kids above ourselves. I had to stop fostering while dealing with pregnancy issues followed by life threatening issues with my ds. Life happens, and the need for foster parents will still be there next year when she is in a better place. It may not be a popular opinion, but it is my opinion.

She doesn't have to tell...she also doesn't have to take placements if it isn't in the best interest of the child(ren). *I* didn't tell our agency when we were pg until after the first trimester. We accepted a placement during that time that eventually was adopted by us. The agency wasnt happy about it, but not mad about it. However, they were VERY, VERY nervous about us disrupting. MANY, if not most, fp's will disrupt the placement right before/after new baby is born. It is a huge risk for the child, to have a higher chance at disruption and/or being sent to respite. It took our agency about 6-9momo+ AFTER my baby was born before they stopped asking us if it was "too much" and if we were "keeping the fc". Obviously, not all agencies are the same. Not all situations are the same.

I know this was 4 years ago and I'm hoping maybe you will see thisBut we are in a situation where we are about to get an adoptive placement form out agency. But I'm currently pregnant and it's super early and no one knows yet.I don't want to disrupt the placement by telling - but am worried that If he moves in and then we tell the agency we might get him taken back out! We are not sure what to do! :( Tell or wait!?? I wont be 12 weeks until hopefuly he is placed in the home