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I wasn't sure which forum to put this on BUT I decided to use this one.
So, I've seen a post talking about Low risk placements. I assume this isn't a common thing, especially with an infant. Anyone done this? My DH is done with foster care I think. I don't think I am. This is the only way we will have a family. Not that that's the ONLY reason why we started but the main the reason. I'm not ready to give up. I'm not willing to say, "okay, we're going to be childless". I miss my angel. And she will always have a place here. Even if we have to build a house out of monopoly money. She will always be our first child. But I don't think we'll ever see her again. The trauma has messed me up badly. I'm not as sharp as I once was but I'm hoping to get that back. I'm working on myself now. Taking the summer to try and "bounce back' to a new normal.
So, what I'm asking is, who has had a low risk placement? age? what did you deal with? I've only heard of high risk until now. Thanks for any replies. :-)
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I had one pre-adopt placement that went through with an infant. They can guess the risk based off of the parents history and if they have lost other kids. There is still risk unless they have been tpr. They can start out seeming low risk as babies and then the parents can start following the plan and get them back at the last minute or a relative can pop out from no where. If you really do not want to risk your heart again you can take legally free kids, but it will likely take longer.
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I'm soo sorry for your lost. Take the summer off so you can bounce back even stronger than before.
I would try to connect w/ other local FP to see how you could adopt a low risk placement. In our County, all children under 3 are considered high risk because if RU isn't possible, relatives tend to set forward as well.
Hang in there sister. Praying your forever child is right around the corner.
I was offered a low-risk newborn placement, but for a variety of reasons, had to say no. In that case, mom had had several involuntary TPRs, dad had been determined not to be an option (which, here, means most likely he either killed a child or is a registered sex offender), and there were no appropriate relatives. I don't know what the outcome was, since he didn't come here. I know someone who had a similar placement that did become an adoption, and another person who was told 99% certain and the baby went home.
They don't use that wording that I've heard, but was told on the placement call that my now AD was a high chance of adoption case as bio mom had lost many children and bio dad was unknown. Was not that simple at all. Bio dad was named and a relative (who had none of the previous siblings) appeared last minute, but we did end up adopting her. I think there are more obstacles with a low risk newborn compared to kids that have already been in foster care awhile.
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