Parents at Odds

In order to save your marriage, if it is saveable, and in order to keep up a relationship with your daughter, you all need to go to family counseling, especially counseling with a professional familiar with adoption issues. I do think that the therapist will support setting reasonable behavioral limits and enforcing them, with regard to your daughter. However, you will both need to learn out to deal with each other as you figure out the limits, as right now, your daughter is playing one of you against the other to get what she wants, and that is not appropriate.Sharon