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When I feel helpless- as I have- I want to do something. I am 20 years old, 35 weeks pregnant with a baby boy who I am going to give up for adoption. I have been up and down the gammet of emotions (happy, sad, frustrated, angry, serene- every emotion known to me) Anyways, I decided that I want to do something. I want to bring the braveness of the birthmother to light, help other birthmothers as they go through every emotion ever- I want to help and I want to do something... Can someone please tell me where to start?
e-mail me at jeniine@lycos.com- or I will come and check the forum (if I can remember name and password- name should be easy enough though :0))
Thanks,
Jeni
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Teasdale is one of my fav's!
The thing I find most helpful for me, is to get out of my head, out of myself and help others. The decision of adoption is yours to make, I just suggest you weigh all the pro's and con's and make the best choice for you and your baby.
I am a birthmother also, and a recovering alki, so I know that there is no adversity that with God's help (for me) that I can not overcome.
Here is a little quote that I like
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less"
Thanks for letting me share!
Tammie
Not all adoptees "forget" or are trained to forget their biomoms. I was adopted within my family. One sister gave me life and another one became my mom. I did not know this until I was 18. I had always wondered about my roots. I do not know who my biodad is, and my biomom never told me, as she said she couldn't remember his name. (she had a severe head injury in 1983) I would NEVER bother the man even if I did know, unless I knew he wanted to see me. I will never know, since She is deceased now. I am grateful she gave me life. I was not angry that I didn't know my background sooner than I did. I think I would have been confused as a child, had it been an open adoption. I think that the new parents of the child should send the biomom letters and pictures every year, and the child should be able to contact the biomom if he/she wants to AND if the biomom wants the contact as well, but only after the child is an adult. There should be no forcing of the issue for either side, IMO.
I think adoption is the most unselfish thing a bio parent can do~!
I admire bioparents.