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You can find profiles of adoptive parents that already have their home studies and are approved to adopt at: [url]http://www.parentprofiles.com[/url] Hope this helps you out.

HI I am so sorry that you have to be faced with this decision. I do hope that you check into all of your options. I do agree with the other post that you and your husband should talk to someone. It is so important to know how each other feel at this time. I wish you all the best. Susie

You can try using a Ministry that works with young women in your situation. They usually will try and help you by offering birthparent counseling, assuring that all adoptive parents are pre-screened and approved by your state, any needs you may have, etc. One such Ministry that I know of gets to know the adoptive couples they work with on a personal one-on-one basis. However, their main concern is assuring that your needs and wants are met. Most of their adoptive parents want to get to know you and establish a relationship with you. Even have an open adoption if you are interested in this. They let you choose the adoptive couple, even meeting them in person as their couples are located on the east coast (usually from N.C. south). Whatever you decide, please make sure whoever you are working with offers you counseling prior to and post adoption. This is a very important step in your adoption decision. Even if you feel like you don't need it now, or may never need it, it is very important to know that this is available. Most ministries will have this available to you. This particular ministry has other birthmothers whom you can talk with about what's happening and what will happen as time proceeds. And....know that you are making one of the most loving, selfless decisions in your life. I was adopted as an infant and am so grateful to my birthmother for the wonderful opportunities she gave me.

Hi...I think Parent Profiles is a good place to start. I just read a posting on a couple in TX she is Hispanic he looks Caucasion. Lots of luck

HI I am a birthmom to A 19 month old GIRL ... I am 38 years old and I have two boys 15 and 11 who I have always parented. The oldest is hispanic / caucasian .. I think I can help you ... I had a wonderful private adoption ... no agencies involved ... no mediators or outsiders or anyone not "connected" to me or my child ......... just me and the Mom and Dad to my daughter ... I had a wonderful attorney they had thier own I had counseling emotional and financial support during and after the pregnancy and feel very lucky to not have had many of the "horror stories" associated with the agencies as a part of my adoption process. I do not want to offend anyone that had a good experience however this to me and for me was the "ultimate" in adoption ...

Yeah, Tori, you aren't actually supposed to solicit birthmothers here.... it IS somewhere in the disclosure that no one reads before they click on the Accept button :) Good luck with your adoption though.

Sorry ladies, but I have talked to this birthmom several times, and I have concluded that something is not right . I caught her in several untruths, and what is with her screen name. Surro4you? As in surrogate perhaps? I'm not saying for sure she is scamming, but I'm just saying its' probably a waste of your time and efforts trying to contact her. Just my conclusion. I stopped calling her, as she was giving me different stories, like she couldn't remember what she had said to me before. I don't want to waste my long distance and my time with someone who isn't truthful with me. Craftiemom

This birthmom was recently arrested for scamming several couples out of $18000 in bogus surrogacy fees. Watch out, people like these are using great forums like this to find victims. They feed on our emotions and vulnerablity.

Thanks for the alert on this woman. I haven't had any dealings with her but none the less I am offended that people take advantage of adoptive families. Our laws need to be changed! Scammers are getting away with more and more. We were in touch with a "bmom" named Kim who scammed over 30 couples. She was staying in a hotel at an adoptive families expense. While the adoptive family was there for their match meeting she would go to her room to "rest", during that time she was calling other families. The hotel records showed she had called over 30 different 800 numbers in the four days she was there. We talked to the police and she had scammed an enormous amount of money from people in a two-year period. In North Carolina a Lori and her husband scammed over $18,000.00 from unsuspecting families. The DA was so mad Lori is sitting in jail and will be prosecuted! Way to go Miss District Attorney! Something has to be done to stop these people! This is a great place to alert people and stop potential heartbreak. If enough people use these boards we will spread the word and hopefully save some family lots of heartache and money Thanks for caring enough to speak out...

Ladies, Thanks for your concern and warning others about adoption scams. As a birthmomther, other birthmothers who are trying to scam give us a bad name. Most birth mothers are legit, but every now and then you will run across someone who is trying to scam. I appreciate everyone looking out for each other and I will notify adoptionforums of this. thanks, Coley

We are adoptive parents to one child and our second fell through but the atty we have here in SC, teaches his adoptive parents how to network-to find birthmothers and such. Im sure he could tell you how to go about it yourself. Also, if you are seeing a ob-gyn, tell them that you are wanting to place, they might could help.

Please make sure that you are well versed in your rights as a Birthparent. I can't imagine the emotional stuff that you are going through... I just hope that you make the right choice for you and your family. Just remember there are a lot of people here that will support you. Wish you the BEST :)