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Money seems to be the problem with adoption. My husband and I are desperatly trying to adopt, as is everyone reading this, but the up front tens of thousands of dollars is killing us all, this is what is wrong with the system and why so many children are still "homeless." if anyone has any ideas or knows where to go please share it. Please lets try not to let money stop us.
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Hey I am doing a garage sale to.
(garage needs cleaned our anyway)
Evil Looks?? UGH! What happen to the day when adoption was a kindness and look on as chairitable?
My husband is very old fashion in that he still have visions of folks leaving babies in a basket on a door step and hoping the kind good people that live there will love and raise the baby.
He is very ANTI $$$$ when it comes to adoption. Yet he is realistic and has set a budget.
I hope to make additional money with the sale and what ever else I can come up with.
Good Luck to you all .
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It is sooo great to see other couples in their early to mid twenties who want children as badly as we do!!
You have really encouraged me, we thought we were the only ones!
Quite a few, infact everyone it seems, says "But you are soo young! Why do you want to have children? You have your whole life infront of you" Bla Bla Bla.
Yea, we do have our whole life infront of us and we want to fill it with sweet babies, entergetic toddlers, smart school children, and of course moody teenagers.
We are a military family in Alaska too, who dont have an awful lot of money to go toward adoption. So we've decided to try to network more activally, and since we can use Jag for legal matters we are praying to only spend about $2-3000 (hopefully!).
I did find an adoption agency in Deerborn Mi who charge between $3000-$6000 for an infant. We went to Detroit this last Feb. and was able to talk to the director in person. She was very qualified and we really liked the agency. I forget their name.
Thanks for the encouragement!
I am so happy to hear of all the enthusiastic families ready to open their homes to a precious child. My husband and I too are looking to adopt but are stressed by the cost of it all. We are also in our twenties and we became sick of the fertility treatments. I don't understand why it takes so much money. You would think that it would be cheaper for the state to let you have the child rather than pay out all of the money for Foster Care. We have chosen for now to take the fostering route. It may take longer and be harder on our emotions but I would like to have money for our child's education and family trips, not paying back a loan for the rest of our lives. Luckily one of my friends was able to adopt through the foster program and her son is absolutely wonderful. She has had him from birth and things are going so well. I can only hope we are lucky enough to have the same experience. Good luck to all of you and may God bless you and your families with a new little life:)[list=a]
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" That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
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I too am a little disgusted with these agencies that charge $20,000 or more to adot. What ever happened to just finding a loving home for a child that doesnt have one. I am a single 30 yr old female that has just started looking into the adoption process. I would love some of the info from you guys that have recently posted on here about agencies that are a lot lower in price. Please e mail me : Jersey5312@aol.com with any info any of you may have! Thanks so much and good luck to all of you! Michelle
"What ever happened to just finding a loving home for a child that doesnt have one."
It still exists and is usually free. It's called state adoption for older and special needs children. With infant adoptions there are more waiting parents than children so it is now about finding children for wanting parents.
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Not wanting to soun rude or prejudice, but I am a nurse and I work in a field where I deal with people that have disabilities and I dont know if I could do that for 8 or 16 hours a day and also at home 24 hours a day. I dont think that I could handle that. It takes a certain type of person to parent children with disabilities and I give them alll the credit in the world. I just dont think Iam the one for doing it all ay at work and at home too.Sorry!Michelle
I have to agree with Lucy here; when it comes to newborns available for adoption, the demand far exceeds the supply.
I also agree with the previous post (can't remember who said it) that Special Needs adoption should not be pushed on potential aparents simply because it's "cheaper". Special Needs children deserve parents who are committed to and capable of meeting their needs, who chose them specifically for who and what they are... not because they are a bargain.
I am the birthmother of a 13-year-old son. I placed my son at birth in a semi-open domestic agency adoption. I too am appalled by the cost of adoption. Yes, somebody has to do the paperwork, but give me a break... we're talking thousands and thousands of dollars. The very fact that adoption has been reduced to a monetary transaction indicates to me that something is very wrong with this equation.
Best of luck to all of you,
~ Shar
I agree with you guys about the cost of adoption.. ecspically over seas, where most of these presious babies are in orphaniges. Don't get me wrong I'm sure that there probably are some good ones out there. But I wonder if they ever stopped to think that if they just let people that wanted to adopt them, adopt them for free. Then maybe they wouldn't have so many to take care of it would reduce their cost to run them.. Sure I think they should still the homestudy and background check and all of that stuff. To make sure they will be good parents but as far as the cost they should let it be free or a least reduce the cost alot...
God Bless All Of You:cool:
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To the forum management, I hope you don't think I am spamming this, because I am putting it in a lot of threads today, but I really want to share with as many people as possible something we found and that is GREAT! Let me know if there's a better way I should be doing this info-sharing in this forum.
Anyway, we really got a LOT out of the Adoption Financing Book that's at
[url]http://www.NuminousFoundation.org.[/url]
They're a nonprofit and they do some grants for int'l adoptions (we applied for that too, the next round is in Feb or March I think) but they have this great book, it's HUGE and has a TON of info.
This weekend we just added up everything we've done recently and we went from having ZERO to having over $5K in about 6weeks by doing a couple of the things they have in there, and even those we did on a small scale! If we keep it up like this, we should do alright!
Just an FYI, hope it helps! Suze
Hi,
I saw all of your adoption stories and thought maybe someone could help! My husband and I are trying to adopt. We are stationed in Washington state and want to adopt from here before we get moved elsewhere. In this state the birth mother only has 2 days in which to change her mind, so that is a big deal to me. The total cost is $17,000 for this open adoption. We have only been married for 3 years. We are a military family and have no collateral to put up for a loan. How do we come up with this money? Can anyone please share their money story with me? I don't know where to go or what to do. Our families cannot help us. There is a $10,000 tax break that we would get back next year, but I am desperate to know how to come up with the $17,000 to begin with! Any help appreciated!
Sincerely,
Stephanie Allen:confused: