I found out I was adopted at 38

Good Luck. My Father was Dr. Clifford M. Hadley, whose first practise was in Polk County, in Polk, Nebraska, but this was in the early 60's. Before that, he was a Minister in a nearby town. He died last October. Maybe this will help, or maybe this is way too similar. Let me know if you need more info in this direction.

You might contact the "California History Room" in Sacramento located at 900 N Street. They have archived newspapers, phone books, property tax rolls, city directories and a list of researchers that might be able to help you with additional information for searching. Phone: 916-654-0176. Other great websites to check out! [url]http://www.adoptionchat.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoptionlists.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoption.com[/url] [url]http://www.adopting.org[/url] [url]http://www.adoptionregistry.com[/url]

Although I can't help you with your question, I am concerned about a friend who found out he was adopted at 18 years old. Adopted father very strict and no closeness to each other. Could you share the affects of finding out you were adopted at a later age? Thank you. Someone who cares.

For information you might to go Google and type in "late discovery adoptees". There is information about this on the internet .... California Adoption Genealogist Other great websites to check out: [url]http://www.adoptionchat.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoptionlists.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoption.com[/url] [url]http://www.adopting.org[/url] [url]http://www.adoptionregistry.com[/url]

Thanks to alot of you. I had a reunion last night with my birth grandmother. I was told the specifics of why I was adopted and how the decision came to be made. I was given pictures of my birthmother although she is not yet ready to meet me. I am told she wants a couple of weeks to compose herself and deal with the last 44 years since I was given up for adoption. Without this website in particular I would still be searching. I am on to the reunion phase of this adoption deal and very happy to be in this place. I will keep you all informed.

As promised I would keep all updated. I have still not spoken to my birth mother, she needs processing time. But I am well underway in my reunion with my grandmother. I have visited with her 4 times in the last two weeks and every time we get a bit closer. Ahe also was not on speaking terms with my birthmother but they are now talking I would think due to me showing up. so it's a added benefit. Also my 1/2 sister on my birthfathers side I found her in early Dec and she had never called me back, I had pretty much given up hope but lo and behold she called me today and we spoke for two hours on the phone and the exp was wonderful. We found out we have so much in common and the conversation just flowed. It's been three years I have been looking for her as well as my birthmom for 5 years and I have to pinch myself to believe this is all real. God works miracles and uses people on this board to make those realities. Thanks again to everyone for there hints and help. I will let everyone know when I speak to birthmom.

Dear Sir: I have just finished reading your bio & I am sorry but I have no information for you but I am in the same boat. But I have found my birthparents but looking for 2 birth sibblings. I logged on to this sight & posted a profile but I don't know if I did it right or not because as of yet I have not gotten any responses. If you have any clues on how to do this could you please send me an e-mail. I would so much appreciate it. Thank you & best of luck in your search...e-mail address:dongoch6@aol.com

As promised, Today at work the phone rang and it was my birthmom. She said she was ready to meet me. I have been waiting for reunion since January. I wasn't waisting any time and we had lunch today and shared stories about both her feelings and my own. I wanted to tell everyone thanks for there help. I am content! the reunion went good, The circle feels closed. I am not sure where we go from here but we exchanged numbers and addresses and I was told I can call her anytime I wish and I told her the same thing so we shall see. The reunion is worth the all the time searching etc. My search lasted 6 years and 18 days. If I can find a female Johnson in California I have to believe anyone can be found. My advive to others would be keep the faith and don't rush anyone that is not ready to meet you. I have less patience than anyone. Somehow God gave me the strength to be patient and let my birthmom make the move after she found out about me. I wrestled with that decision many times and felt like maybe I should hurry it along but in the end I let it come in Gods time. I believe the results speak louder than words could.

Adopteewes... You certainly handled the situation with sensitivity and care. Your thoughfulness and consideration of your birthmother's need for processing time paid off! My advice has always been: "The burden of patience falls on the person who initiated the contact." Many blessings on your reunion journey, Email: California Website: Other great websites to check out: [url]http://www.adoptionchat.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoptionlists.com[/url] [url]http://www.adoption.com[/url] [url]http://www.adopting.org[/url] [url]http://registry.adoption.com/[/url]

Hello, I just wanted to tell you how happy I am for you. I am so glad this all turned out the way it has for you. Congratulations to you!! I hope I can have the patiance that you did when and if my time comes. I am also searching for a Johnson in California, so the fact that you were able to find a Johnson in California gives me so much hope that I will too. Thanks you lifted my spirits!

When I last posted, I had met my birthmother. Well its been almost 8 months and I have called her on christmas with no response and sent her one letter. She did send me a birthday card last August. I am content about that and feel great that i got to meet her last June. I see my grandmother about once a month and she tells me she feels lucky to have me in her life. So that in itself makes it all worthwhile. Now for the flip side My 1/2 sister on my Fathers side who i had about five phone conversations with basicallys sent me a 5 page letter today telling me how insensitive I was to look for her when she never wanted to be found, And how much of a idiot I am to brag to her of what I have accomplised in my life. She told me I worship false idols and am stuck on myself and I dont realize how foolish I am. She also told me I should sell my belongings and give her half if I really care about her. I guess we all know the answer to that question. Just wanted to warn all of you that you never know what your going to find when you search out your birth family. All in all this has been definitly worth it.

Wow, your update suprized me. I am sorry about your birth 1/2 sis, that is too bad. I wonder what would maker her write you a letter like that. It doesn't really make sense? Why would she expect you to sell your possessions and give you half? And how would you have known if she didn't want to be found, you did the right thing. And I am glad you feel that all in all, it was worth it because it was. Take care and please share any future updates:)

Clifford Hadley was my Great Uncle. I don't know if I can help, or if you still need help. Feel free to contact me if you do.Dave

I just wanted to keep everyone updated. the good news My grandmother and myself have built a very strong relationship over the last two years. she has mentioned to me how much I have enhanced her life which is nice The so so news My birth mother and I have only met the one time. I have exchanged cards with her and I have called her a couple of times and she has called me a couple of times. all in all we are ok but not close The best news I got all the answers I ever wanted and have no more desires about this family of mine. it is great to have all the answers that I longed for for so long The best news of all If I can find my birthfamily anyone can find there birth family, You just need to believe and you need to be persistant Good Luck to all

It's now been four years since I found my birthfamily. My grandmother and I are close. She has told me that she was afraid i would have been upset about being adopted but we both agree it is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Make sure when you make contact that you let the people you find know right away, that you are not looking to confront them only to thank them and be open minded about what kind of realtionship they would like to have. I have found over the past couple of years that I can look back in retrospect and understand how I was so focused on finding my birth family that you can't really see how someone may not want to have a relationship with you. I found out a very important lesson when this past mothers day I left a message for my birthmother and it was just never returned. I wondered how in the world could she not even wish to respond to me. We have spoke a half dozen times by phone and met in person once. Becasue I was not so emotionally involved as I was when i first met her. I realized it was me who wished to build a relationship with her, not vice versa, who knows what feelings I stir up in her when I contact her to just say hello. I realized it isnt me but it is her. I decided I was going to leave her be, she knows where to find me if she ever wishes contact. the great thing is I found out what I so desperatly felt at the time I needed to know. That is that it isnt about who I was born too but what I have made of myself, and the person I have become. The best thing about finding the answers is that the chains are removed. And you no longer have the burning unanswered questions that always burned deep within me. I no longer look around and wonder if every woman could be my birth mom. I guess it gives you back your freedom to be yourself. I pray all of you who are searching find that freedom. Keep searching, And never get discouraged. You never know when you get that break that gives you your answers.