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I was adopted through Catholic Charities in 1954. When I was 18 I went searching for answers. They originally told me my birthmother was 18 when she had me. My birthfather was overseas but he lived in Virginia and he was around the age of 20. I thought I had found a match based on this information I had. So I contacted Catholic Charities for some more info. if they had it. NOW they are telling me, my birthmother was 27,my birthfather was 30 and lived in Illinois. I am so confused. I have heard that Catholic Charities does whatever they can to protect the birth family. Even if it means changing your date of birth on your birth certificate. Can someone please help me with any info. or opinions they may have? All help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless.
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I Too Feel That I Have Been Lied To. The Dr Who Delivered Me Practiced In Va Only...ever....and I Was Told I Was Born In Washington Dc. I Also Asked Almost 1 Year Ago To Be Placed On The List For Mutual Consent And Am Still Awaiting My Papers To Arrive(4-6 Weeks Mind You) I Cant Believe The Cc Can Charge People $400 To Find Out Information That Most Other People Know For Free From Day One And Take For Granted. I Asked Them "what If I Don't Have That Kind Of Moey To Give?" They Told Me It Is A Small Price To Pay For The Work It Would Involve. What Work? Looking Something Up In A Computer Database Or At The Most Having It Sent From An Archive? The More I See The Less I Know......
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I was never able to find bfamily based only on my non-id, but once the judge gave me her name and I found a huge family tree on ancestry.com - a lot of what was in the non-id matched what I found in the family tree.
and yes, I was adopted through the Catholic Charities here in NJ - where they don't give you much.
What they did do though, was have me come in to pickup my non-id and they read through my file with me there - again they still didn't release any identifying info
It is illegal in every state to alter a birth date. If it was ever done, it was probably quite some time ago (at least before the mid-70's) when laws were a little more lax and the church had more power. Bad record keeping or incompetent searchers are another thing entirely and can put a major kink in any search. Good Luck!!
CC in Peoria, Il. has been a little helpful for me. They contacted me several years ago when my BMother wanted to see if I would be open to communication. At the time I wasn't but since have started looking for her. They are willing to start a search (that they already have info on) for $300.00. I finally had to send them a pretty heated letter just to get the date of my adoption, the county, and the case number. The state of Illinois also offers a CI search program for a little under $300.00. [url=http://www.ci-illinois.org/]CI Illinois[/url]It is free if you were in the DCFS system which is my case. Personally I would rather give the money to the state of Illinois than one of the "Charities".
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Hi, I was adopted in 1973. I didn't have any issues at all with CC. I contacted them for NON - Identifying information which I have a legal right to. I joined a support group for adoptees searching for birth family. They found my BIRTH INDEX (at the library where all births are documented they said) and that gave them the last name of my birth mom. I am in Ohio, she lived in Colorado. She was flown to OHio to give birth then flew back. The agency said that I could "GUESS" things. I also worked closely with the Probate lady. I found more often then not that you have to play there game to get the information you want and ask a lot of questions.
I was reunited with my birthfamily in less then a month. It was all I did was search. I realize that I am one of the lucky ones. I asked a zillion questions and called anyone/everyone I could think of.
Look for support groups
get a notebook and join every FREE search index online you can
And call all the time .
I know in ohio that all you do is have to show up in court before a certain birth year and your entitled to your docments. my cousin did this as well and she was through CC.
Good Luck. :)
[ i was adopted thru cath. char. in illinois, they charge a few hundred bucks for non id info which sucks! you can get a confindential intermediary if there is one in your state that can ask the judge to open file then they contact your ma or dad and see if they want contact etc.. i am in that process right now, good luck! i was adopted in 1960, well, born in 60 adopted 61.:love: QUOTE=lisa nevius]I was adopted through Catholic Charities in 1954. When I was 18 I went searching for answers. They originally told me my birthmother was 18 when she had me. My birthfather was overseas but he lived in Virginia and he was around the age of 20. I thought I had found a match based on this information I had. So I contacted Catholic Charities for some more info. if they had it. NOW they are telling me, my birthmother was 27,my birthfather was 30 and lived in Illinois. I am so confused. I have heard that Catholic Charities does whatever they can to protect the birth family. Even if it means changing your date of birth on your birth certificate. Can someone please help me with any info. or opinions they may have? All help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless.[/QUOTE]
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[ i was adopted thru cath. char. in illinois, they charge a few hundred bucks for non id info which sucks! you can get a confindential intermediary if there is one in your state that can ask the judge to open file then they contact your ma or dad and see if they want contact etc.. i am in that process right now, good luck! i was adopted in 1960, well, born in 60 adopted 61.:love: QUOTE=lisa nevius]I was adopted through Catholic Charities in 1954. When I was 18 I went searching for answers. They originally told me my birthmother was 18 when she had me. My birthfather was overseas but he lived in Virginia and he was around the age of 20. I thought I had found a match based on this information I had. So I contacted Catholic Charities for some more info. if they had it. NOW they are telling me, my birthmother was 27,my birthfather was 30 and lived in Illinois. I am so confused. I have heard that Catholic Charities does whatever they can to protect the birth family. Even if it means changing your date of birth on your birth certificate. Can someone please help me with any info. or opinions they may have? All help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless.
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@Blue Irish Eyes and all Missouri adoptees;
If Governor Jay Nixon can be persuaded by enough adopted adults and biological parents to sign Senate Bill 351, records will be a bit more open beginning in August. Specifically adopted adults will be able to request IDENTIFYING information without permission of adoptive parents, and the law will change to allow adopted adults to have identifying information about biological parents if those parents have died, regardless of whether the biological parents signed an affadavit before death. This will also be extended to descendants of deceased adoptees.
Please contact the Missouri Governor's office to urge him to sign this!
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:love: :love:So i met my boyfriend a little over a year ago. when he first told me that he was adopted i wasnt sure what to say to him. he was adopted threw Catholic Charities In Rochester Ny 33 years Ago. Im Not sure how to help him find his birthparents but i am willing to do whatever it takes because i know how badly he wants to find out!!
Thanks
Ashley:love: :love:
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:love: :love:So i met my boyfriend a little over a year ago. when he first told me that he was adopted i wasnt sure what to say to him. he was adopted threw Catholic Charities In Rochester Ny 33 years Ago. Im Not sure how to help him find his birthparents but i am willing to do whatever it takes because i know how badly he wants to find out!!
Thanks
Ashley:love: :love:
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