Infant with Attachment problems.....

I just wanted to jump in here with my experience. We adopted an infant boy, at about 5 months, from an orphanage in Eastern Europe. Since our precious child was so very young, I did not think that I would have to be concerned with attachment problems at all. I may have been wrong!!! Eye contact was just not there... Holding and cuddling - forget about it... Feeding - problems surfaced right away. I could not feed my baby a bottle while holding him at all. Instead of eagerly taking the bottle, he would throw his head as far as he could to one side away from me. In order to get any nutitrition into him, he required to be propped in his crib with his bottle. And, when it came time to eat regular foods, things were just as bad. He would simply refuse to eat at all. He was what I called a very 'high maintenance' demanding baby. If things did not go just the way he was accustomed, he became very very upset, agitated, sometimes to the point of just becoming out-of-control. Many times I cryed because I had reached the end of my rope, and just left him there in his crib crying or screaming.... Nothing else seemed to work. This was probably one technique to 'disengage'... which many parents may need to do more often when facing 'issues' with their kids! In addition to this, he may have had some sensory integration issues as well. He was always completely overstimulated by just anything! We simply could not go about a normal life with him at this point. I stayed home and 'played orphanage'. going thru a daily minute by minute, very simple and un-stimulating, schedule. To jump to today.... our son is now 4 years old. And is a wonderful, happy, and well adjusted boy! He has been a complete blessing! I was not able to easily seek help with these kinds of issues. And I just followed what I had read, and my heart, day-by-day, to address these things. Yes, it was always heart-wrenching, sometimes trying, and often exhausting. But, also a wonderful joy! Looking back, there are so many things that I would have done differently. I found that allowing myself to become upset probably did not help matters at all!! And, I wish that I had spent even more time doing little things to help bond. Like, smoothing baby-lotion all over him. (which is one thing that I found out much later that he seemed to like!) Here is another example.... Dressing him when he was very little was a complete struggle. It seemed he would fuss and fight forever, until I finally had to just wrestle and force his clothes onto him when necessary, with him then screaming and crying... Looking back, I feel that when I had him lying on my bed, which is where I changed and dressed him, was perhaps one place where he wanted to interact/play with me. ( probably was how he had most of what little interaction he had at the orphanage....) Of course, my objective was to get him dressed and get to wherever or whatever was the agenda at that time.... If I had handled this simple situation a little differently, it may have been a joy instead of a problem!!! So, that is a bit of our story. I saw this new thread, and just wanted to post here, for whatever it is worth!