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This is my first time here, my husband and I have 2 little girls with us in foster care 2yr. old and 11 months. We received these little angels by accident from DCS. The bio-mother was living with us and I was trying to help her get her kids back from the father and we went to court and she received joint custody w/ my husband and I . The day she received custody she left the kids with her grandmother, after the judge told her not to leave them with ANYONE but my husband and I. I picked the kids up at 10pm that night and kept them for the next 7 days till court again. During this time the mother called 1 time. Now DCS has done our homestudy and background checks and we have the kids, We are still waiting to do the path classes. So far DCS.. is very upset with her. She had her permancy plan this past frida and showed herself badly. The DCS worker said he will be looking for things on her. We are really hoping to keep girls. We have all bonded very quickly.
Sorry this is so long, but really need some advice as to what to look for or what we can do to help this along. The mother has history of drugs and all of her family has same history. Father was arrested on drug charges in court last time.
If anyone has advice please contact me. Thank you for reading.
There is alot more to this story. Not enough time to type :)
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All you can do is follow the rules TO THE LETTER. Make sure you document EVERYTHING, take the classes, and uphold all the foster home standards for your state. Also, NEVER NEVER say anything against the birthmom to the kids. You can express your fears about the birthmom's stability to the caseworker, but always be diplomatic. I've seen foster situations fall apart because a child repeated something negative the foster parent said about the birth parent. It sounds as if you are doing EVERYTHING right, and you are loving, caring people. As long as you follow the rules, you'll be fine. The rest is up to birthmom, but it sounds as if she won't be able to put things together in time to get her kids back.
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Thank you, I am trying my best. They girls have a visit with her on Thursday. I hope all goes well. They are supervised visits with the caseworker. We are very careful what is said in front of kids. Caseworker is not optimistic about the birthmother....So I guess we will hang in there, love the girls and PRAY ALOT !!!!
Thanks again,
Julia:)
Hello Julia,
It sounds like you are doing all of the right things!!! I wish you the best in the road to come. It is not always easy, but remember that the concern is that those little girls get all of the love and stability that you can give them.
Do whatever is required of you in your state to become "certified" foster parents, and if your state has the foster/adopt program, make sure you let the caseworker person handling your homestudy and certification know that that is what you are interested in. It will make things go much more smoothly if the children do become eligible for adoption in the future.
Best of luck to you!!!
Karen