ok this is really sad!

So sorry about this! I will send good wishes to you and your family! Love, Debi

I will certainly keep you and your birthmom as well as all of your families in my prayers. I can only imagine how hard this is for all of you.....maybe knowing a summer reunion is right around the corner will give your birthmom more strength to hang on. It's amazing what an incentive like that can do....it really is! Hugs, Sally

Thanks deb, You know we really can get ourselves mucked up in extranous feelings and all that time you waste on minor things could be used to keep relationships going. (positive ones that is) I lost my amom and a very close aunt in the past seven years(along with others ) I am SO tired of loss, I am always waiting for the next shoe to drop...my kids have seen alot of loss also...is there more of it these days or is it just my family, or is it the way I handle things....just musing

Thanks shirly, Your always such an up person!!I love reading your posts.

In the last year, I have lost one of my best friends, my God Daughter's grandfather, a dear friend from church, and a co-worker.........it is amazing, really. But I had someone much older and wiser than myself say that as she has gotten on in years, she looks at death a lot differently...she says she isn't worried about it so much now, because she knows more people THERE then she does HERE! I thought that was a wonderfully positive spin on the whole thing! I tend to look at it now, as more of a celebration in a way.....I celebrate the life of the person, and know that they have just gone on to another level of their journey. Everyone celebrates when a spirit ARRIVES on this earth, so I just try to look at it as something else this spirit is supposed to accomplish....it needs to leave here and move on to something more -- something better, so I celebrate when it LEAVES, too. That may be a very simplistic view, but it works for me. At least now, I don't fall apart and become a complete non-functioning basket case everytime someone dies. :D My prayers are with you, and I appreciate your kind words! Hugs, Sally

dpen--Bless your bmom! My prayers will be with her, and you as you face the days ahead. I hope that you can "all" be together soon. That would be wonderful. Maybe somehow, some way you can get together this summer. Hold on to hope! In the mean time enjoy her by letter or phone as much as you can. I know she appreciates it. Many hugs to you!:D spete

It is so hard to deal with the many things we face in life as feeling human beings. You mentioned how many losses you have had to deal with and I can relate. I hope your bmother does overcome the current health problems and you are able to have the meeting that she hoped to make with her two sons. If not, I hope there is some comfort in the relationship you have been able to have over the years. Thoughts are with you.

Hi, I lost my birth Mom only 8 months after our reunion. I was devostated! I had searched for her for 8 years. We had a fairy tale eight months together, but I really felt so crushed and cheated when she died. I did get to meet her in person, and we talked every day on the phone, just like other mothers and daughters. In fact, I hate referring to her as birth Mom, instead I think of her as my Mom. We were so much alike and she was very affirming in her love for me, something I didn't have from afamily. My saving grace is that I am also very close with my sister from her and my aunt (her sister). And they have pulled me through this grief. Thankfully, I have also just last month been reunited with my bfather and that helps too. To him I am his daughter too! But, I really have to fight back feelings of worrying that I will lose him too. I know it's not sensible, but you know how the heart is! Seems God had some part in our reunion. She always wanted to have grandchildren and I was able to give her that joy before she died. Also, her other daughter (my sis) would have been alone and now I am big sis for her. I am very thankful for all these things but still grieving my loss. Lisa

DPen, I'm really sorry to hear this. It is very sad. I don't know what to suggest, except maybe try to talk on the phone with her and write letters as often as you can. Even if you don't get to see her in person again, I'm sure that working out your differences and communicating peacefully with each other would be beneficial to both of you. (I'm sorry, I don't know your whole story... I'm just responding to your post. If things have been really bad between you, I understand it might be difficult to establish a relationship now). You have my support and sympathy. Sincerely, Sharon

Thank you everyone for your replies, I have spoken to her since my last post, aqnd she was home from the hospital but went back in due to pneumonia,and continues to lose blood , probuly from a bleeding ulcer. Apparently the docs have been tryng to deal with this but she is now down to 71 lbs. She went from 101 to 87 now 71. How can she survive this? I hear she is very stubborn...so maybe.... I am in contact with her sister so she has kept me updated. Thank you all again for your concern...It means alot. Donna

Dpen... Just wanted you to know that my a-mom went from 105 to 63 and lived to tell about it. She's at 89 now -- and she's certainly frail, but she is up and about, and she lived thru the worst! :D I'll continue to keep you both in my prayers! Hugs 'O Plenty! ;) Sal

Dpen You have my sympathy for your ailing birth mother and the worries that go with it. I see that you said you had too many things going on and found it very difficult to go to Georgia to vsit her. Nothing is really impossible. There must be someone reliable to take your kids for a couple of days at least? and would understand if you said that you had a very sick relative you needed to visit immediately. It would be worth it if you could borrow or get the dollars together for the money for a flight, there are a lot of low cost airline companys right now who will get you there and back for next to nothing. If she does die it will be too late forever to meet her. Now is your only chance and she said that she was planning to come see you despite her ill health. She is obviously got too sick or she would. I hope it works out for you and that you do not need to lose her. Good luck, hang in there sweetie Pandora

hi my name is amy, im in the processof adopting a child , i was just surfing and i found this, im not adopted or anything, but i lost my mom in a car accident in august, i know how your feeling, your feeling the same as i am, I AM SORRY