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Next week is my soon to be asons visit with his "other mom" as he calls her(I quess he is already politically correct at the age of 4). I am really dreading this visit. I bring him to all his supervised visits and this will be the "final" (thats what the SW calls it) before the adoption is finalized. (After there will be visits 3x per year). My heart is really breaking for my sons "other mom".
I can't imagine saying "goodbye" to my child. I just need how to get through this without turning into a puddle of mush. I do have alot of feelings for this young woman (although I definately don't agree with what she has done to this child...Abuse, neglect etc...).
I feel that I need to be the strong one during this visit, for everyone, even though my little guy doesn't want to go.
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my son to be son is much younger than your son and doesn't even realize that "stacy" is his bmom, but we just had a visit (the first one since my son's name changed and since his bmom terminated her rights). it was a bit ackward, and i felt the same as you. as we left, she said i love you and be good for your mom, i know that was so hard for her to say, and brought tears to my eyes, but when i was at the visit, i was trying to remember everything so i could record it for my son when he gets older, i didn't have time to "fall apart." and my son is only 2 so just keeping him in one spot kept everyone's energies. i hope things go well for you, i would love to hear how it goes.
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Denise--That is tough, and my heart goes out to you! Bless his little heart, children should not have to endure so much pain! You are right to be strong for your little guy, and just know that all you do his a great blessing for him and his bmom. Just keep her updated on his progress like I know you will, and that will help you to help her. You are a very special person to be doing what you can for Them. My prayers are with you! Best of luck!:D spete
Thanks for your support. I know that we will all get through this but like I said..I do feel for his "other Mom" I wish that I could have adopted her as well, Hopefully, as she grows older she will realize how important her life is. She is a perfect example of a never ending circle. She parented the way she was parented. Well, hopefully the circle has been broken. Thanks again.
Denise