Blessed But Very Stressed

I WAS APPROACHED BY A RELATIVE OF MY FOSTER CHILD. SHE ASKED ME AND MY HUSBAND WOULD WE TAKE THIS BABY IN. THE BABY WAS IN HER CARE AT THE TIME. SHE WANTED TO GET OUT BUT SHE DIDN'T WANT THE STATE TO TAKE THE BABY. NOONE IN THE FAMILY COULD TAKE THE BABY SO WE TOLD HER YES. THE BABY WAS 6 MONTHS AT THE TIME. SHE'S NOW 19 MONTHS. THE MOTHER HAS ALOT OF ISSUES. WE STARTED OUT AS RESPITE FOR THE RELATIVE. WE WEREN'T LICENSE AT THE TIME. A INCIDENT HAPPENED WITH A VISIT AND THE CHILD WAS PLACED IN OUR HOME BY SOCIAL SERVICES. THE MOTHER HASN'T HAD A TERMINATION OF HER RIGHTS YET. WE'VE HAD A MEDIATION HEARING IT DIDN'T WORK. THE MOTHER HAS GIVEN UP HER RIGHTS. SHE WANTS A FRIEND OF THE FAMILY TO ADOPT. THE COURT HAS PLACED THE CHILD IN OUR HOME. THE MOTHER VISITATION HAS BEEN TERMINATED BUT THE COURT HAS ORDER VISITATION WITH THE FRIEND OF THE FAMILY. SHE GETS A VISIT ONCE A WEEK FOR 4 HOURS. THE FIRST COURT DATE IT WAS CONTINUED. THE SECOND ALSO. THE RECENT ONE HAS BEEN ALSO. THE PROBLEM I HAVE IS WE DON'T HAVE A LAWYER. THE FRIEND OF THE FAMILY DOES. THE COURT HAS ORDER FOR HOME STUDIES TO BE SENT TO ALL LAWYERS. CAN THE FRIEND OF THE FAMILY SEE OUR HOME STUDY? DO WE NEED TO GET A LAWYER NOW? WE WAS ALWAYS TOLD THAT WE WOULDN'T NEED A LAWYER UNTIL ADOPTION. I WANT TO BE HEARD ALSO. I'VE SPOKEN WITH HER GAL. I'VE TOLD HIM EVERYTHING THAT GOES ON WITH THE BABY AFTER THE VISITS. WHICH IS NOT GOOD SHE COMES BACK SICK EVERYTIME. I'VE SEEN THE DOCTOR AND HAS CALLED THE HOSPITAL HOTLINE SO MANY TIMES. NOTHING SEEMS TO BE WORKING. I KEEP A JOURNAL. I'VE SENT IT TO HIM. I WANTED HIM TO KNOW WHAT THIS BABY IS GOING THROUGH. THE COURT ORDER FOR US TO AGREE ON TRANSPORTATION TO AND FROM THE VISITS. I AGREED THAT I WOULD TRANSPORT MY BABY BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT ANYONE KNOWING WHERE I LIVED. THE RELATIVE HAS TOLD ME. THE FRIEND OF THE FAMILY IS LETTING THE MOTHER SEE THE BABY. I CAN'T PROVE THIS BECAUSE THE RELATIVE DOESN'T WANT TO GET INVOVLED. I'M CONFUSED I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. THIS IS A VERY LEGAL RISK SITUATION. I'M STRESSED. HELP.