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we have a 4 yr old son and are completing our homestudy for a waiting u.s. child. My question is: Everday life can be chaotic enough with one child. Does adding 2-3 more at a time make 3 x's the work or is there a trade off in free time by them playing together? Will my son who now adamantly wants siblings decide later they take up tooo much of moms time? Being a parent to only one child and being the middle of 4 kids myself how do I know I can handle the day to day details odf 3-4 kids?
Hope this makes sense, seems like rambling to me! appreciate any opinions
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I had one nine year old boy when I added three brothers two eight year olds and a nine year old. It took a great deal of time from my first son. He came to resent them being there and they ganged up on him. That being said, they did have major emotional problems. The boys are now all 13 and 14(all four will be 14 Wednesday). We have also added 5 others since. The four are now very pleasant and get along well. Early on, they did not entertain each other as the bickered and fought constantly, now they share everything. worth it? yes, Hard? yes. But now it's easier.
Hope that helps answer your question.
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My first son was also adopted at age 7 and had wanted, at that time, to be an only child. He no longer resents his brothers and he enjoys their company.
As for the day to day, I reevaluated what was and wasn't important and we all work together. We also started with a great deal of structure that helped everyone learn good habits and routines.