Stuck in paperwork hell

So we have one last red tape to cross and we are done. There is a form that has to be sent to our attorney, basically a summary of E's life in foster care. I know its time consuming but hey he's 2 years old NOT 16 and being adopted. How hard can it possibly be? I feel like calling and volunteering my time to type it up. So its just sitting there on our SW's desk and she is not doing it. The last time I called and bugged her about it-promise I am nice. I simply ask how its coming along-she said she would call me when she got to it. That she thought she would be able to finish it that day or the next (uh, that was almost 2 weeks after she promised judge/attorney she would get it done). So that was last Thursday. It is still not done. UGH! She then told me not to call! So what do I do? My mom said all you can do is pray. So today I'm praying she will find time to do our paperwork, that it will all fall in place, and we will have a date soon. We had to get an abuse clearance from Indiana (because we lived there under 5 years ago-but just by a month!) for the agency we want to use to adopt our baby girl. This agency has bent over backwards for us in helping us get homestudy ready. Our SW has called and done her best to help, she even volunteered to call CPS and see if she could get permission from them to place an infant with us w/o E's adoption being finalized as they are a non-profit organization/agency that licenses with CPS in NYC. Anyway I have been hitting nothing but dead ends. Our NY attorney said he had never heard of this and advised me to contact an adoption attorney in Indiana. I called several. Apparently an abuse registry is a NY thing, not an Indiana thing. Not one of the attorney's I contacted knew what I was talking about. Frustrating. I made one last phone call to one more attorney. He told me he did not know what it was I needed but that he would do some research and get back to me on it. I had heard that before and then nothing. A week later he called and left a message. He said he still did not understand what this was (he had never needed it as an adoption attorney) but that he has found an organization that would process an abuse clearance for us. He gave me a name and a phone number. I called and left several messages with them. Nothing. I decided to give it one more try. Yesterday I finally talked to the woman who I was referred to! Guess what!? It was done in 5 minutes. I guess Indiana only requires that clearance if you are going to be a foster parent or run a daycare. In NY you need it for every adoption, every homestudy, everything, that along with FBI and criminal fingerprint data base for EVERY adoption and EVERY homestudy. As in you get your homestudy, you get fingerprinted, then when you are placed with a child and move towards adoption, you get fingerprinted AGAIN! We have been fingerprinted more times then most convicted criminals, foster parents, M's adoption, agency fingerprints, E's adoption, now our baby girls adoption. NY has the oddest laws. I mean does it make sense to go through this TWICE for a single adoption let alone 6 times in the span of 2 years??? Can't they simply use the fingerprinting that was done 5 weeks ago? The answer is NO. Anyway I'm grateful to have that Indiana clearance out of the way. I was told by the very nice woman who helped us they run our names and socials through a state data base and it will only be a week at most for that to be done. We completed our fingerprints 2 weeks ago and assuming they were sent off last week they should be back in 3 weeks or so. We have physicals (yes we do have to get additional ones :(!), financial disclosure, and a homestudy addendum that is being mailed to us to complete and our home visit and completed homestudy write up from our homestudy SW. After that we are done. Well with this part anyway :). When we are placed with our beautiful baby girl we will need to get paperwork together for our attorney and will have 3 post placement visits from our SW before we can schedule the finalization of her adoption. Our home visit was scheduled for this Friday afternoon but I'm having a hard time confirming it with the SW??? She is sort of hard to get in touch with. But she usually pulls through at the last minute. So I'll call again today. Oh, I think I hear the E up and awake-slept in today......must go be a mom :)! L