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Carol Hayes replied on Ciera Hernandez's thread "Rights of a Parent whos Parental Rights have been Terminated".
I just got to read the full post after I replied it let me- Bio's always want the world- She has no legal leg to stand on. You and your husband are a better fit and the judge will most likely choose you over a grandmother especially by age. My sister did not want to have a 2 year old when she was in her sixties. I feel for you both. Like I said in previous post, family adotions are hard but stick to your plans! Beware of social workers who don't follow through with things- call the social workers boss if you need to- If you have an EAP through one of your jobs get an attorney so someone has your back. You won't need the attorney for much other than making sure the judge- who is the only one actually making the decisions. Sorry just saw that this post was from 2020- you hopefully have both boys by now!!!!
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Carol Hayes replied on Ciera Hernandez's thread "Rights of a Parent whos Parental Rights have been Terminated".
Family adoptions are hard. The Bio's want and want any connection while you are trying to provide stability. I wish you the best! We adopted my great-nephew for same issues. We had an emergency placement of him- still took a week to get some safety stuff approved in our house. After the Bio dad threatened to kidnap my sister so he could force her to show him where we lived and get 'their boy' back we were done- moved states. Our son is very well adjusted 8 year old now. Fostering to adoption took almost 3 years. He was 2 when he came to be with us. I send my niece pictures and she will send gifts occasionally through my sister. We made it clear that any communication beyond like through Skype won't happen until he asks for it. It is his time schedule of when he is ready not my niece's desires. That is how we chose to handle family adoption. I know some do it differently. I was lucky enough to get to talk with an adopted adult from same issues with drugs and abuse. She said we were doing the right way letting him grow up and decide when he was ready then support the contact.I don't know if this helps you. I hope you get licensed soon!! It will be great to support relationships with rest of family. Our son see's his half sister and brother (older) when we visit Cali- Grandma reads bedtime stories by facebook and he gets to see cousins, aunts, and uncles too! Visitation was the hardest part for us as it went on so long but since they already lost rights not a thing to deal with! Best to you!- Carol
Carol Hayes replied on Ciera Hernandez's thread "Rights of a Parent whos Parental Rights have been Terminated".