Kristen Sands

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS. I’m the biomom. I got into drugs after I had my daughter but I’m clean now and will have 9 years clean in a few days. My parents adopted my daughter when she was 2. Since then, my parents have called themselves her mom and dad. My daughter is now 12 and they are still encouraging this. She also refers my brothers and sister = her brothers and sister - as well as my cousins = her cousins. My daughter calls me “her real mom” or by my name. I can see the confusion in her eyes at times and it kills me. As grandparents, you might think you’re giving your grandchild or grandchildren security, and though it’s not your intention… what you’re doing is the complete opposite. My daughter will never know what’s it’s like to have grandparents because that was taken away from her. Friends ask her questions and she struggles to find the words to explain. Please listen to the testimonies of grandchildren who have actually lived through this and not some therapist or other grandparent who has no idea what the true outcome will be in years to come…