AGow

Hello MBeth, I am 55, There had always been a rumor going round that I was adopted, but so many things happened, It seems right off there was a disconnect between my “parents” and myself, at age 10 I was placed in a “Group Home” by my “parents” 3 years later they relinquished parental rights making me a ward of the state.( a different one than where I was evidently adopted) I have spent my entire life wondering what it was that I did so wrong to make this happen. Fast forward to yesterday, my “Father” is dying of Spleen cancer, (yes even though I am technically no longer theirs I still call them mother and father) my brother and I flew out to help him and to start to take care of his final wishes I had the opportunity to read his “Will” and there it was in black and white, I truly was adopted. I have kept my real feelings from my brother/adoptive brother telling him I’m ok, I’m no where close to ok. I’m not even sure what to do next. Maybe there is nothing seeing that it is a little more than “midlife” but my brain has so many questions none of them that will be answered by my now “Relinquished Adoptive Parents” I have no clue what to say or do next, it was easier just as a rumor I could ignore it and carry on. Now I have to go back to “Fathers” house today and help my brother. He is my support and crutch at the moment but he’s had issues as well. Sorry so long I do hope your Adoptive parents were loving and supportive even if they did keep the secret. Thanks for reading. T.