Hi, I have a question. I adopted my grandson when he was 4. His parents were drug users and they're rights were severed through CPS. He has been with me almost everyday since he was born. Mom has alwa...
Hi, I have a question. I adopted my grandson when he was 4. His parents were drug users and they're rights were severed through CPS. He has been with me almost everyday since he was born. Mom has always been in his life and he knows that I am Grandma and she is mom. Which I believe he needs. He had been seeing a therapist for 4 years has lots of anger issues he was abused by one of her drug boyfriend's early on. And lost bio dad to drugs overdose. Mom my only daughter has gotten herself clean and has been clean for 2 years. After the first year. I started letting him spend more time with her on weekends and such also holidays and summer when he was out of school. But I have started having issues with her wanting to make all decisions and saying she is his mom and I think quilt makes her give into whatever he wants to watch which I'm against. We got into a huge fight about it. I know I can pull back and not let her see him. I am just so worried about him and how it will effect him emotionally. Do any of you deal with this and how do I make her see that she is not helping him and is making it worse sorry for long story. I am just so tired of all the conflict. Thank you.
Hang in there! This is a very hard task and you need to step back and realize all the good you have done first before moving forward. Secondly, you should set boundaries with your daughter on what you expect and do not agree with . It might be a difficult conversation but it is best to have this out...
Hang in there! This is a very hard task and you need to step back and realize all the good you have done first before moving forward. Secondly, you should set boundaries with your daughter on what you expect and do not agree with . It might be a difficult conversation but it is best to have this out in the open and both have a conversation regarding expectations before it ruins not only your relationship with her but hers and your grandsons. It is a tough conversation but well worth it. This is like mediation or a child custody agreement. If its written down or said out loud people can be held accountable, if it isnt in writing or agreed to.... it gets muddy. Hope this helps!!!