considering single adoption

i am a single adoptive parent to a 2y/o and 1y/o. they are my foster children right now. they are 1/2 sibs. i have had the 2y/o since he was 3 months old and his adoption should be final sometime this year. i have had his sister since she was 9mo. i am in my very late 20's. if you want to chat about the joys and struggles of being a single parent, feel free to pm me. i think some of the times i wish i had a husband around are when one of the kids has a first, like last weekend when my son went on the potty for the first time and there was not other adult there to share my pride in him. sure i call my family but it just is not the same. some of the good things about being a single parent is the bond we have with each other and there are no differences of opion on the best way to raise the children. i enjoy my children greatly but would not be able to do it without family and friend support. in fact, my sister is picking the kids up tonight and letting them spend the night, so i can get some more packing done for our move. good luck to you!

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hi, we are in the process of adopting two boys, siblings, they have been with us for a while. I know what your thinking, "your not single" but i do have some suggestions. first, the thought of raising any of these two kids by myself, i would kill myself....lol. I have a whole new understanding of single parents, god bless you mckenna!!!!! We got the first boy, he was 4, hes 5 now, and he kept us going, when we got his brother. AHHHHHH!!!!!!!! dont get me wrong, siblings have been great, they play together which gives me some time to take care of things that i need to take care of, and I dont hear all the time "play with me daddy". which is nice.. these kids do keep me going non-stop. anyway, heres my suggestions, i would probably focus on a single child, rather then siblings. Kids have appts. doctors/ dentists/ school/ therapy....it never seems to end....and to juggle the two kids, gets tough. again, god bless you Mckenna!!!! lol. but heres my biggest suggestion...find an adoptive support group before the child comes in your house, this way you will have the support before you actually need it, i know we didnt have a support group when they arrived...WE DO KNOW..lol. it has been a life saver. Adoption does bring up issues with children, no matter the age, and since they cant verbalize alot of how they feel, they act out. They can make you crazy.....but we are adopting older kids. 5 & 7. so they came with some issues anyway. anyway, hope this helped. and one thing to remember, you have too, or must, keep your sence of humor....you will need it. dadfor2

dadfor2, believe me i am no saint and yes i would definalty raise one at a time, but there were other plans in the works and even though my children had never been raised in the same home, i could not split them up. i agree a foster/adoptive parent support group is a great help. also my kids are younger and right now we are dealing with the basic infant/toddler stuff we have not quite gotten into the adoption issues that i know are ahead of us. we discuss adoption openlly but they are a little too young to fullly understand right now.