Why would a birthmom choose a single adoptive parent?

When I placed my daughter 31 years ago single motherhood was not veiwed as a positive thing and no, I would not have considered it had her adoption been open. Then, men were often the primary bread-winners in the home. Today things are much different. Women own companies, are elected to public office, purchase their own homes, businesses etc. and are very capable of supporting a child with their own. Todays woman doesn't have marriage as her #1 agenda; she can elect to raise a family without doing so. Not only are women in this powerful posistion, but so are single men. Having said that I would not object to an unmarried person adopting. We have evolved and the scene has changed.....Best Wishes.....Missy

I too am a single adoptive parent. I applied with an adoption agency called Adoption ARC out of Philadelphia, PA. From start to finish took 7 months to have my healthy newborn son placed in my home and in my heart. I was totally surprised as I was expecting to wait at least 1 to 2 years and then only in a situation that I was choosen by the agency because the birth mother did not want to choose and I would have been waiting so long. But not so!!! I was choosen as I said in seven months by both biological parents and grandparents because they liked my birthparent letter, containing information about my family with similiar interest to theirs. Adoption ARC places all over the US and I believe maybe in some foriegn countries as well. I hope this gives you some hope. By the way I had already adopted 2 children through the foster care system and 2 through our statewide adoption program and was still choosen to adopt this beautiful baby. I am working on my 6th, and international adoption. He should be home soon!

Why would a birthmom choose a single parent? Why for the same reasons we'd choose a married couple or a gay/lesbian couple! Because they are offering what we want for our unborn child. We all want the same things for the baby :) We choose whoever we choose just cuz it feels right! Best of luck!

Both my boyfriend and I are interested in adoption.I could not believe the responses to us not being married and wanting to adopt.At this time we are still not married,however we have been together for over 16 years (which is more then i can say for some marriages). It really gets me upset rather I am married or single I know I could take care of a little angel.When a decision is made for me personally about adoption that is a serious commitment one not taken lightly by married or a single person.A single person could love your child just as much as a married one.I know of a couple who adopted and are married and their marriage is a total fake they don't even get along with each other.But yet that biological mom requested a married couple,sometimes married couples are not the answer to every adoption.I feel as long as a person can love and care and have stability for a child they should be given a chance.A choice should not be made if a person is married or not just that they have love in their hearts!

I dont really even know where to start here. I have gone thru the homestudy and have been approved to adopt a child. I have to say one thing I think its so wrong that adopting a child comes down to money. Im not rich by no means but im not poor either I can provide a good home for a child. Whatever happened to love? I understand a child needs to be provided for but the main thing that child needs is love! Now we are going thru whats called kidspeace where the agency pays for most of the adoption, the children have special needs which ya know what to me it doesnt matter I will love that child regardless. I was kinda hoping for a newborn or a little one but as it looks it will be an older child, which is ok to I just wanna be a mom so bad. I long to hear a child say those words to me "mommy". My husband and I never got pregnant for 13 years so we just assumed we would never have children. Well in January of 2002 I became pregnant which floored me because we had been together so long and it never happened. It wasnt until that very time that I knew I wanted to be a mother, I lost the baby in February and was so devestated. It wasnt until I lost that baby did I realize how bad I wanted to be a mom. Thats when we decided to go through the adoption agency. We had been approved back in September of 2003 when I became pregnant again, this time I was just going into my 4th month or pregnancy when I again lost another baby. Well I came to the realization that Im not gonna give up if god wants me to have a baby it will one day happen, meanwhile Im still going to go through with the adoption, if I get pregnant it will be another child for our family. I will love them both the same and treat them no different. Ya see Ive learned no matter what happens in this life, I was meant to be a mother and one day that will happen for me. I think any mother who could give their child up is such a sacrafice not just for that child but for that adoptive mother, what a gift. Regardless of what anyone does and decides it is your choice to do and only you can make it. I would like to share my website with everyone I will be redoing it to add my son Jacob Lee that I just lost that I will be adding to it but this site I did for my child:) [url]http://www.geocities.com/ForeverPrecious1/MyPreciousAlyssa.html[/url] Its just what my child means to me:) My only advice that I can give to a mother thinking about giving a child up for adoption is to think everything through before you do it and you pick where your child goes and feel comfortable with that choice. As I said only you can make it. MommytoAlyssa

I am a single adoptive mom. I was only 21 when my daughter was placed in my home as a foster placement. I adopted her in Nov. at only 23 years old and still unmarried. I thought it would be difficult, but it wasn't. When her bmom signed over her rights she said that I could provide her the stability that she could not. That was a major factor in her decision. It is more often that minority babies are placed w/ single moms, because couples want "a baby that looks like them" many times. All in all I think it comes down to love, stability, and values that are similar to bmom. My daughter is loved much more than many kids a w/ mom and dad.