Help, ran into bp after adoption

I had to hide a kid under a table at a state fair once when his bparent was there(It was a dangerous situation). How'd your child feel? I guess that's where you need to start. Another of my boys bmoms use to drive up and down our street. It freaked the kids out, but I think she just wanted to see if they were happy and safe. Do you think the mom was as suprised to see you as you were her? If you think the bump ins are intentional, dangerous, or harmful to your daughter or that she's following you, a restraining order is an option. If you think maybe you just live in the same area, there are different options. The first starts with talking to your daughter about running in to bmom and how she's feels about it. That might lead you into the direction you should take.

Thanks for the advice Lucyjoy, My daughter thankfully said she didn't know or remember who she was( very bad case). It was an accident that we ran into each other( this time), but she really didn't know we had adopted her, so now she does, and she knows who and where we are. so if we do have another accidental meeting, definetly will get a restraining order!!!!

Hi Tripper, What a sticky situation! I had s sticky situation a while back too: About a month ago I had to take my adaughter to the ER with a 104.5 temp and sever headache. Well the hospital had recently been completley remodeled along with a brand new computer system. I had her there several times before but they could not find her in the computer. When I gave them her sss# all her old information came up, her old name and her bmom's name. Boy you should have seen the look I got from this woman. She even went to get her supervisor to ask how to handle this. They did not belive that I had adopted her! Funny Huh?:D But slightly embarressing! Anyway they took all of my informaton and let me take her in, I guess they did this based on her medical card. OH well, LOL! Judilyn

and you need to. All you have to do is take an offical copy of her new birth record and an offical copy of her adoption order to the SS office and apply do not put her old ss# anywhere on the document. This is a kid starting a new life...etc... If they give you slack as to speak to the administror and say---I know I don't have to attach the old ss# to the new one and you can issue a new number to a kid recently adopted. I know of cases where b-ps have claimed children on income tax years latter and cause trouble for adoptive parents and b-ps who have given children bad credit, etc... by using their SS# of credit apps, etc.... it also gives the b-ps a direct link to locating these kids just about any time. We also have the medical record problems and school record problems even with old foster kids (their parents can always locate us as they have our information, etc....) One of the reason I am moving to the other side of my state is to get out of town and be way far away from b-m when she is released from jail next year (something she did after TPR) I don't think either of them cared enough to look them up, be we did have about 3 chance encounters with b-ps and about 2 with b-brother and 5 with b-brother disrupted adoptive parents, etc.... They did claim them on taxes the year after the adoption was final and I guess the entire 3 they were in foster care (I had not gotten on the the birth records back yet and had to use old SS#----my taxes were kicked out and I had to verify that I adopted the girls and report b-ps for completing false returns) The IRS is the ones who told me about the bad credit thing some b-parents do to their kids. Yeah, I guess you can get them for fraud, etc... but isn't better to just not even give them the chance?