ISO BM I was born 4-6-62 BM name Barker

Hi I am a reunited b-mother born and raised in Ashland Ky, I have lived in Tx now for many years but my family and friends still live there. I can probably be of help you as this is a very small town and everyone knows everyone. There are only 2 hospitals in that area, Kings Daughters Hosp and Our Lady of Bellefonte in Russell, Ky., which is just a small suberb outside of Ashland. There is one High School, Paul G Blazer High and at that time there were 2 Jr High's, Putnam Jr High and Coles Jr High. They have since incorporated the Jr High's into one. I was 2 mos preg when I graduated high school in 1972. There was a girl that lived across the street from me who was about 2-3 years older than me,her name was Nancy Barker and I know she had 1 brother but I am not sure if she had any other siblings. I checked Classmates.com for the years 1960-1968 for alumni attending Paul Blazer High and there was only one female registered on that site with the last name Barker during those years. Her name was Judith and her new married name is Razwilavich,alot of Paul Blazer's alumni are on this site. I would guesstimate that your b-mother was probably about my age or younger when she had you. You will need more non-id info though. Do you know what the name of the hospital was that you were born? What time and possibly who handled the adoption? I was reunited with my son 4 years ago in Oct It took years and lots of dead ends to find him but it is all worth it in the end. Not many girls back in those days who had to give up their child even had a choice in the matter. It is a very small town and back then it was absolutely taboo to be unmarried and pregnant. Let me know if I can be a help to you. Good Luck to you!!!

This is the first offer of help or hope we have had. I am Erics' fiance' and am deperately trying to make his dream come true for multiple reasons. The only info we have is that he was born at Kings Daughters hospital immedialtely ater birth. there is no info in teh adoption agency as it was a private agency. According to birth records his mothers name was Sandra Barker...not Barbara as previously thought. I have uncovered critical info on teh Barker family as the are almost all adult on set diabetics, as is Eric. I am sure the giving away of this son was not the choice of the mother but was forced upon her. He wants despererately to meet her. He has medical issues and no blood relatives should he find himself in the position to need family. Apparently the man she was impregnanted by was a married man which complicates the issue. He has expressed no interest in finding this man, only has begged me to find her. She was 16 at the time of birth so I am not even sure what her graduation date would have been to check classmates.com. I can get close though. Thank you for your interest and your help. I know you understand the heartache that he and I am positive she is enduring. My email is tkh207@aol.com and his is ArmsE@aol.com. Any help you could provide would be greatly appreciated as his adoptive mother is unwilling to come forth with any info and he does not want to hurt her by pushing the issue as they have been a wonderful family to him. Thank you again... Toma Havens and Eric Arms

Hi! Well here's a start, there are a few people on this site with access to the birth index for Ky. I received an email yesterday from a searcher who told me she had access to it. We were trying to figure out the sequence of it. Like I said Ashland is a small town. I went to grade school with Mike Barker.He had several siblings and I know he had several older sisters. They owned a little grocery store and had a home right next door to the grocery. My friend that I grew up with now owns that store and lives in the same house. He bought it from the Barker's. I do know that this family moved out of town. My mother will remember more but I believe the mother was oriental. The children all had that look. Do you have any nationality info? Let me do some gossiping with my mother and in the meantime I will forward your email on to the searcher I mentioned and see if she can help. You just have to jump out there as all of us have the same goal. You'll find that people will be very helpful. One more thought is that the b-mother could have been from the surrounding area. Ashland is right across the Ohio river from West Va and Ohio. It's all very close there.

I am an Indiana adoptee reunited after 7 yrs of searching. I was reading you post and thought that I might be able to tell you what I have learned. As you probably have heard it is not unusual for the hospitals, states, or agencies to conceal accurate information. They have tried to try many things. Here are some things you might consider in your case: 1) "Sandy" might be an alias given by birthmom or birthfamily--you might investigate the other Barker females in that area. 2)Sandy might be the real first name of the birthmom and Barker may be the birthfather's last name--I have seen this done. 3)Often the dates are changed--either inverted (ie: instead of 13th it may have been 31st etc) 4) I would also check any dates 1 month prior and 1 month post of the date that you have given-- Many times the date you have and the date the birthmom has may be quite different. She may be searching under the wrong date. 5)I would try a site search on this web site of all states. Often the agencies will tell the birthmom that you were adopted and/or moved to "such & such" state---they often did this to make it difficult for the birthmom to search since she should have a good idea of an accurate birthdate to search by. 6)I would call the hospital direct and ask for the names of all boys born on the given date--if you can obtain a hospital record (ie: registration number assigned to birthmom at admittance) then sometimes you can go to hospital and request copies of medical files. (Eric's doctor may also be able to request these to be sent to his office---this would only seem "routine" to someone at the hospital as they foward files all day long) 7)Check to see if the local newspaper in that area has birth announcements in paper at that time. Again, try a week or two before and after date. Often times hospitals forward this as public record without notifying the patient. I heard of one case were the birth mom consented to the hospital releasing that info without her parents knowing. She was right to assume that her child would some day come searching and this was her clue to the child. I just thought that these tips might help. I don't know if you are new at searching and it took me many years to discover all the lies involved in adoptions. Best of luck in your search, kelley