January 1968

My husband was adopted in January of 1968 through Edna Gladney in Fort Worth, Texas. He is afraid to look for his birth parents because of how it would affect his adoptive parents. They were VERY upset when his adopted sister's birth mother found her. They are very protective and secretive about the adoption of my husband. When I was pregnant with our daughter, my mother-in-law was very nervous about whether or not my doctor would need any medical information from my husband. We didn't have any information, so I just wrote on the paperwork that he was adopted. My mother-in-law acted relieved that I didn't ask for anything further. I would love to meet my husband's birth family and let them know they have a beautiful, sweet granddaughter, but I don't want to cause any problems between my husband and his (adoptive) family. My question is, do MOST adoptive parents act the way in which my in-laws do in regard to adoption? On two different occassions, out of the fifteen years my husband and I have been married, they have mentioned information that they knew about my husband's birth family, but never told him. One was that one of his grandparents was a concert pianist (this information was told to me and not my husband) and the other was that his birthmother was 18 when he was born. Thanks for any insight.