Arc

ARC stands for the Adoption Resource Center. Still part of DYFS but it is the office that handles the adoption cases. So if you are interested in adopting this is a good thing for you. It will still take time because the parental rights still have to be terminated once the case is in that office. Visits if they are happening will continue till the judge orders them to stop. It can still take a long time to happen, just hang in there and remember the case worker has to prove to the judge that the birth parents are unable to care for the child. They have to give the bparents every chance to prove themselves before their rights can be terminated. Your child will get a new case manager once the case gets to the ARC office. Good Luck

Please keep in mind that a child whose case is in ARC can be return back to the district office. I know it happen to me. My baby girl case was in ARC for over 1 1/2 an a week before court everything was turn over and reunication was the goal. I learn things are not always as they say. In my case I got approved for fost/adopt and in 1week got 3calls, which I excepted one and placement 1week later. Health cauasian 14month old. Whom live with me for 2yrs & 4 months. It's not easy loving a child hugging & kissing them and they calling you mami and the next day as if it never happen. Every case is different just as every child is different. But every loss is still a loss....

nycgirl:( I know it must have been heart breaking for you to loose the child who you were raising. It does not seem fair when such an awful thing happens to you. There is always a chance the the reunification will NOT work out and the child may be returned to your care. I think you should keep in touch with the worker at the district office. As you have already learned things do change and the Bparents may not be able to take care of the child after all. If that should happen, wouldn't it be nice for you and the child if she could return to the security of your home rather then have to start all over in a new foster home? Just my opinion. Hope your hurts heal.

Thank you, The worker from the D.O. became her worker once she was in the parents home I have never meet her but I have left messages with wanting to know if she's ok and that there still is a room full of her stuff here which they couldn't take it all in 3 trips. And I get not one phone call to say she's fine. I cared for this child day and night for over two years. But one thing I've learned is the fost/adopt parents feelings are of no concern to them. The birth mother told me she would want me in the child life but no sooner did she have her home she disconnted the phone. I just want to know she is fine and happy. And if that means she forgets about her time with me as long as she is happy that is all I want to know. I send my prayers to her every waking moment and every night. And maybe just maybe she had to go for know so she can come back for good. Only God knows. I would welcome her back at any hour of any day.

Continue trying to call the worker at the DO. Try early in the morning or late in the afternoon when she is more likely to be at her desk. Or hit 0 and ask the receptionist to page her for you. One important thing to remember when speaking to the CW is you get more flies with honey .... so be very sweet and nice even if you want to scream at her for not returning her calls:) As you have discovered it is not an easy system to deal with nor is easy for the CW's. They are under constant scrutiny and demands on their time also. They are usually required to work unpaid overtime and are often out very late into the night taking care of emergencies on their case load. I am not trying to justify their behavior, just know no ones job is easy.