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:confused: I decided several weeks ago to place this baby for adoption but have no idea how to go about doing it. I am open to people from all life styles and belive that what matters most is love but how do I do this? I know that I need to find them but how? any advice will be welcome!:confused:
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Jennie, I also live in Idaho. There are a lot of agencies and attorneys that would be happy to give you counseling and help you on your way to deciding what you want! If you look in the phonebook under adoption there are counseling agencies, etc.
The only reason I am suggesting going through agency/attorney is if you are wanting a family who does NOT live in your state it would be easier for you to find them with agency/attorney because they network rather than trying to find them on your own!
Best of luck,
Christa
When trying to educate myself on adoption from the other end of the spectrum one agency name has come up repeatedly. Bethany Christian Services. I was told that they are very supportive and none pressuring. I do not know this for a fact but this was repeated from several different sources. I will pray for you and your decision.
Jennie,
I'd suggest you get in touch with Brenda Romanchik at Open Adoption Insight. Brenda's an adoption educator and a birthmom in an open adoption. I think she'll have some great information for you. She does not 'do' adoptions, only provides education and insight into the process.
She's here on the boards - user name bromanchik, or you can Google her group name.
Other than that, if you really want to go independent, your best bet is to contact an attorney specializing in adoptions. The American Academy of Adoption Attorneys keeps its' member list online. You can Google for it too. Call at least three in your area and interview them for comfort level, experience, etc.
Last but not least for whomever you work with, be sure they're not pressuring you one way or another. Until you sign your consent to terminate parental rights, you are fully entitled to change your adoption plan. Anyone who pressures or tells you otherwise is not acting in your best interest.
Best of luck,
Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas
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Jennie,
It sounds like you are working through your thoughts...keep doing that to keep yourslef in check. If at any time you feel as though you are being pressured...step back and just BREATHE...don't EVER let anyone make you feel rushed or uncomfortable!!
This is a HUGE decision and you need to make sure it is YOU making it!...not someone else.
God Bless
Dear Jennie,
There are alot of group sites on yahoo where we can post that we are looking to adopt and that birthmom's can post that they want to give there baby up for adoption. There you can talk back and forth and re quest infor about them.
If you want any of them you can pm me or e-mail me and I will be glad to get you started with them....
I will be praying for you....
Jennie,
As many of the others have said.. there are many attn'y and agencies out there that can help you. But you can also go private..
Just some things to think about.. (to be upfront, I am a hopeful adoptive mom, and have learned about these options as we have done our search looking for a birth mom.. but I think the same issues apply for the most part.)
I know that you said you want the adoptive parts in a differnent state.. using an agency/attn'y can be helpful here since each state has a different set of laws - but you can always find an attny once you select the adoptive parents..
you want the adoptove parents to be present at the birth.. this can be done with any open adoption even if you go thru an agency.
although as an adoptive parent I LOVE the idea of independantly finding a birth mom (would make me feel closer to her, but also reduces the cost for the adoption) - I also would hate for you to choose adoptive parents that may not be representing themselves in the best way.. so.. just make sure that in any cae, you have a good homestudy, that you take with the social worker that has done the study, and you just protect yourself and the baby.
I hope that helps.. please feel free to PM me if you have any questions and GOOD LUCK..
Mandy
Hi Jennie,
I think you have gotten some great advice. There are over 200 couples out there for every infant available. If you continue with your adoption plan, you have so many choices it is unbelievable! Dont let anyone tell you otherwise!!!There are tons people out there!!!
I have heard of some pretty creative ways matches have found each other. If you are interested let me know, I'd be glad to share!
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If you want an indepenant adoption you need an attorney. also you would need a counselor. A counselor can tell you some good attorneys. I found my attorney from my counselor. I am using an attorney to handle things for me. He shows me profiles of families. I want an independant adoption as well. I find an independant adoption to be more personalized than using an agency. I did talk to an agency once and I didn't like them at all. They pressured me to do things their way. When I talked to them they made me feel like I had no control over anything and they me feel like I had no choices. Then I talked to my personal counselor at the counseling center. she gave me an attorney and said the attorney is great and he is great. The counselor that I have is not an adoption counselor. I decided to use a counselor from a mental health clinic that way I am sure she is unbiased about things. I also find attorneys are unbiased.
Hi everyone, I would like to update you on this birthmom. First of all she was unable to reply to any post because someone placed her on the banned status, because of her being so direct about asking for help in a open adoption. I personally know her and she was told the baby was going to be a boy but to everyone's suprise she had a beutiful baby girl on March 12,2004. She decieded adoption wasn't something she could do and decieded to keep the baby. So she now has 4 girls!!!! Her current boyfriend adore her and all her girls. He was with her through the birth of this one which she named Naomi.
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