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I was born and adopted in Wisconsin. I found my birthfamily in 1997 because the laws in Wisconsin changed and allowed it due to the fact that my birthmother had passed longer than a year after my search.
My brother was born in Chicago in 1954. My aunt was 9 at the time and remembers the date, the name he was born under, and that it was Chicago. She had gone with my birthmother and another older aunt to Chicago so my birhmother could avoid a very violent situation with her boyfriend who was not the baby's father.
I have been in contact with a person in Illinois name Melisha who contacted me about 5 years ago and I re-contacted her last year. She is very willing to help me try to find my brother. She said I need my identifying information and my birthmother's death certificate. Luckily one of my sisters is willing to see if she can get it for me. She says with this information, I can go through the confidential intermediary system.
My oldest sister does not want me to search and is giving me no papers, information, or help. She said it was some kind of promise to my birthmother not to search for either of us. She said the reason why she even called me after receiving my letter is that "everyone" knew about me, but not him. She said something curious though. She said that his birth certificate had no name, only a number. She also said that he was never told he was adopted. That leads me to believe that either she is not telling the truth or that my birthmother knew who adopted him.
Can I go through the intermediary system, being the adopted sibling of an adoptee? Melisha says yes, and she has asked for no money.
Is this an option for me? Colleen, I have watched your posts for years. I have been amazed at your accuracy, completness, and compassion. It is very refreshing in this day and age of people not wanting us adoptees to know about our "other families" or even look.
Lisa Monahan
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I was adopted in Chicago in 1950 and the social worker in Post Adoptive Services at the agency said that I would be able to search for an older boy placed 16 months prior to my birth and placement through the same agency. For now I'm concentrating on communicating with BioDad and one of my half-sisters. Do you know what agency handled your brothers adoption?
You might want to send Colleen, thesearchguru, a pmessage in case she misses your thread. Here's the link to her profile, you can send her a pmessage from there. [url]http://forums.adoption.com/member.php?s=&action=getinfo&userid=17[/url]
Best of Luck! :)
Brendalynn,
I am just beginning with this search of mine also, so I don't know half as much as Colleen....but I would agree that I would think you can search for your brother. It sounds like to me that there may still be some ghosts in the closet as they say, since one of your sisters doesnt want you to search. But listen, its your right to know. Good luck to you and god bless! And I agree with the other post ....give Colleen a pmessage and she may be able to help in some way.
Michaeleen
Birthmother 10-9-1983
Your story is about as confused as my 'family' history. The family which stole & raised me moved frequently between Eau Clair, St Paul & Chicago. My 'mother' & her sisters were rather wild, & ended up with an assortment of kids by various fathers, with an UNBELIEVABLE set of birth certificates - ie, same Dr signs as attending physician in two different states? Unlikely. Also, other babies came & went thru our home with no records & no explanation. (You don't 'babysit' a child 24-7 for days or weeks, & then deny the child was ever there.)
Have been trying to find links to people who may have been affected by blackmarket baby ring operating in these three states from ~1949 to 1960. Also possible tie to Canada.
Have you considered that your brother may have been a sister, or a twin? How trustworthy is the birth certificate? Is the witness in a position to know the truth about what was born? My experience has shown that the lies abound.
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Last name of birth mom: Kurek
I was born in 1954 - Chicago
contact: gcn1993@aol.com
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I was born and adopted in Wisconsin. I found my birthfamily in 1997 because the laws in Wisconsin changed and allowed it due to the fact that my birthmother had passed longer than a year after my search.My brother was born in Chicago in 1954. My aunt was 9 at the time and remembers the date, the name he was born under, and that it was Chicago. She had gone with my birthmother and another older aunt to Chicago so my birhmother could avoid a very violent situation with her boyfriend who was not the baby's father.I have been in contact with a person in Illinois name Melisha who contacted me about 5 years ago and I re-contacted her last year. She is very willing to help me try to find my brother. She said I need my identifying information and my birthmother's death certificate. Luckily one of my sisters is willing to see if she can get it for me. She says with this information, I can go through the confidential intermediary system. My oldest sister does not want me to search and is giving me no papers, information, or help. She said it was some kind of promise to my birthmother not to search for either of us. She said the reason why she even called me after receiving my letter is that "everyone" knew about me, but not him. She said something curious though. She said that his birth certificate had no name, only a number. She also said that he was never told he was adopted. That leads me to believe that either she is not telling the truth or that my birthmother knew who adopted him.Can I go through the intermediary system, being the adopted sibling of an adoptee? Melisha says yes, and she has asked for no money.Is this an option for me? Colleen, I have watched your posts for years. I have been amazed at your accuracy, completness, and compassion. It is very refreshing in this day and age of people not wanting us adoptees to know about our "other families" or even look.Lisa Monahan