Florida Adoption Reunion Registry?

looing for kristin 4-18-71 and melissa born 10-16-73 born in nc and adopted in tampa fla the girls were older when they were taken kristin 5 and melissa 3 so i assume they kept their first names and i am the birthmom looking for them i hope to find them soon anyone want to help would be great reply to sweetpeaches2goS@webtv.net or sweetpeaches492003@yahoo.com i have been searching 10 yrs and i wont give up till i find u your younger sister is wanting to reunite with u and she is in florida as well

As I read the posts, it becomes obvious that for everyone searching for a child given up, there is a grown up child searching for a birth parent or sibling. The heartbreaker is that the people we are looking for aren't the ones looking for us. Maybe they are and they are using a different forum. I'm new to this, I'm looking for a brother 2 years older than me that was given up at birth and though I've known about him for a long time I am just now actively searching for him. We are both in our early thirties now, and it's almost an obsession of mine. There is a very strong need to contact him, my problem is that he has no way of knowing I exist. Every avenue ends in a dead end for me, since noone in Florida is willing to help. The agancy has strict rules about giving out information, and if he isn't actively searching there's basically no way of ever finding him. It's like an emotional rollercoaster and it's no wonder why so many people feel like giving up.

adoption is not easy but u live with it your whole life it seems like i wish i could get some form of life here to know i can find my son and girls but i just keep on keeping on

lfiler wrote..Every avenue ends in a dead end for me, since noone in Florida is willing to help. I relinquished in Florida in /65.. I can remember calling St Vincent in Miami and getting the wrong person.. I got a priest.. I told him that I was looking for my son and no one would help me.. He was very kind to me.. I don't think he could understand why no one was helping me.. I guess he knew nothing about the terrible adoption secrecy laws in Florida.. And I remember calling the registry in Tallahassee.. I said to the man.. What if he has been abused? (my guilt my guilt) :) The man said to me.. "Then you can help him." I hope you find him.. How does your mom feel about this searching.. Has she asked the agency for her non identifying info? She has a right to that.. When I registered in Tallahassee there was a place on the form for siblings etc.. sweetpeaches49 wrote.. i just keep on keeping on I hope you find them.. Jackie

:o looking for b daughter born 12-12-86 adopted when she was 3 and a half in Fla last known she was adopted with her 2 brothers born 2-25-88,and 5-31-89 . They was adopted in 6-17-89 please help me find her. i cant take not knowing how she is i love her and always will.

I am sending out my paperwork today and hopefully it will come back with a match. When I heard of the registry I had high hopes but after reading all of your reply's I'm not too hopeful, but I still have to try. I had to give up my son and daughter in 1983 for adoption. They were born in Tampa, Florida. My son was born on 11-28-80 and my daughter was born on 04-26-83. I was told that they could have changed my children's birthdates as well as their names. I think it's so cruel that there the states make it so very hard to find your family. If all we have are the birthdates and birthplace, then that makes the odds even slimmer of finding them. The only hopes that we have to go on is that our loved ones are in the same websites that we are. I do know this much. If you are an adoptee looking for your mom and your birthdate is anywhere close to the ones I mentioned, do me a favor. Go in the bathroom look in the mirror, if the room lights up then contact me. Both of my children were born with blue eyes, blonde hair, a dimple in thier chin and smiles that could light up the world. Their hair could be anything from a strawberry blonde to a dark brown and their eyes could have changed to a hazel. My son had surgery when he was an infant so there should be a scar on his lower abdoman. I do knnow this much, I will never give up looking and I will find a way to break through these cruel laws that are blocking families from being reunited.

I just got a notice that someone had posted a reply to something I wrote. It's been a while since I posted anything. I can't figure out what the original message was. I just wanted you to know the reason I haven't posted anything in a while is because I have been busy meeting my biological family. It has been wonderful. The adoption agency was not able to contact my birth mother and I have taken on that search myself now. But, I asked them to contact my Birthfather if they had any information on him and within days they reached him. As soon as he was able to fill out paper work saying I could have his information we were able to talk to each other for the first time. We were both ellated beyond words and it was love from the first moment. In fact, that's what all these agonizing postings are all about. Love. And that's exactly what people who bar adoptees and birthparents from each other don't understand. I seriously think if we're going to put a stop to the oppression of adopted people and birthparents we need to present a case to the American Civil Liberties Union and get people to understand the that our civil rights are being violated. The majority of people in the US have never thought about what this feels like and because of the secrecy and emotions involved many adoptees and birthparents never go beyond the boarders of an adoption registry to voice how they feel. I wish you much luck in your search. Through mine I have found many ways of searching and many people willing to help just because they are committed to the cause. Let me know if you need help. Also, Check out the book "Cold Paper" and "The Adoption Search Book" They gave me much help and support when I was almost ready to give up, along with all the friends I made along the way to discovery. Keep up the hope... I'm 37 years old and I truly believe it's never too late.

My daughter was born in St. Pete,Fl 12-15-79. I would love to find her. You said the attorney was a family friend so was the attorney who placed my daughter ( a friend of the adopted parents). If my daughter found me I would welcome her with open arms and let her decide how much of a relationship she wants. No body is perfect but you must have had some good parts from your bio parents you are a very astute person. Good luck in your search. Sincerely Maryann

So now that it has been a couple months I tried to unseal my record from the Broward County Court House and It was denied because there was no medical information in my adoption file. But He also said that there was not a copy of my birth cirtificate in the file. Now I have one question for people born in or around the 80's in Florida, do they put the birth weight on your birth certificate? I do not have one on mine, and all my friends from other states including my husband all have there birth weight on it. How do you get any information from florida!!!

Oh and my time of birth is written on my Birth Certificate. ( the one my Adoptive Name on it ) Does anyone else find that a little odd?

lori, I had the same question. I signed up years ago (Soundex too) I finally called them back since all I ever got was a reply saying that they had received my registration. No they don't contact you to let you know that there is no activity. You just kind of sit in their system until there's a match. The good thing about registering with them is that anytime anyone is looking the first thing they're told is to register with these two organizations. It doesn't matter who or where they call they will be told the same thing so you know that they will find out about the registries eventually. I've been searching for my daughter for 16 years now. Ever since she turned 18. I know someday I'll find her.Don't give up. God's time is perfect. SLF

When I found this site last Aug,,By b-child was turning 20...W/ no help of the agency..or anyone else..I posted on this site..One year later..I have been contacted by daughter....All the records are sealed...and we found out that in the early 1980's that not ony could the b-childs name be changed but so could the b-date...That makes it very hard to find family! We are waiting on our DNA results as we speak ,,,any day now...I am a nervous wreck! Happy but a wreck...I am so thankful for this site...I have been searching for a long long time,,,,Oh yeah,,,my daughters b-day is this Sunday..8/15/83....And she is so happy to have found me..and I to am so very blessed to have my baby girl home where she belongs! Good luck to all on your search..Never give up! Candie :)

Birthdates (especially through Catholic Charities) prior to the late '80's were sometimes off a day or two one way or the other...I've never heard of it being more than that. There is a free site just for adoptions in Florida. I posted my info there and have had two seperate search angels email me with the contact info for my birthdaughter...that's how I located her. Post as much info as you have, but keep like one thing to yourself...something only you and the searched for member might be able to identify. I've noticed the more thorough your info, the more likely the search angel will run the name through for you. [url]http://reunited.cjb.net[/url] Best of luck to all! ~D

need some help from angel in fla anyone that can help me would be appreciated

I recently got a letter in the mail from Children and Families in Florida. I have forgotten that I had sent a letter to them for non-id information. When I read what they had in there it made me feel a little bit better, some more of the puzzle. I found out how tall they were, what relegion, all that good stuff, but the most important thing on there was that I have three half siblings from my B Father. Two brothers and a sister. I couldn't believe it. They did not stay together and my B Mother was just 21 and My B father 29. But what I thought was so neat was that there are certain things about them that are like me. I have always had a ear for music, I still play the violin among other things. And on there said her special intrest was piano. His was motorcycles...lol but it said he served four years in the service (didn't say what branch but I have a pretty good guess) I served 4 yrs in the service too. I recently asked my A Mother to tell me more information about my adoption and I told her that I could not get ahold of the lawyer who did it. (he is a family friend) So she called him and he said that last weekend he would go in the attic and get my file, well now its friday and I haven't heard a word about it. I really thought that this was it, I was going to find them. But I think my B Mother was from around where I live. It said she was born in a Mid Atlantic Coast State, and B Father was from the Mid West, now he had his first child at 17 dropped out of highschool and got married and had the other two kids. So He was not married when he was with my B Mom but the fact that I put together .. Ok a Mid Atlantic Coast state, he was from the mid west, so I think when he severed it was in Virginia and she was from there and thats how they met... Does that sound right or am I just hoping to much. I just hope someday I will meet them both. I know this sounds crazy but I just want to be friends with my B Mother and B Father, and get to know my half brothers and sisters. Maybe someday, but I do know this it has taken its toll on me.