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Hi
I have two little ones aged 3 and 4 years old. When they were younger I know the oldest used to be very dominant over his sister and hit and bite her. Now that she is older she has started to hit and bite him. I know all children fight and I have told them if they start hitting each other then one of them will probably get hurt and end up crying.
But now, if the youngest can not get her own way with me or I tell her not to do something she will hit me and storm off. If I try to speak to her she will totally ignore me. Do you think it is best to just ignore this behaviour and she will stop doing it if she knows she doesn't get any reaction?
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Hi,
It sounds, from what you have written, that your daughter has learned the behaviors of biting and hitting from her brother. Sometimes ignorning behavior does make it stop. If that doesn't work, you might try teaching your daughter another behavior to replace the hitting. When she is frustrated (by not getting her way) you can teach her other behaviors to try ... like asking nicely for something or telling you how she feels (this will take some teaching about feelings). It's important to use consequences for behaviors that are respectful to the child, related to the behavior and reasonable.
Hope this is helpful.
Nancy
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I am totally having this identical problem with big brother bullying little sister. Biting, hitting, pinching and pushing down. Now she (who was oh so sweet) has learned these behaviors as well. I need help with this issue and cannot believe that there are only 2 posts!!!!! I have heard this is very common! Help people! :eek: :D My son does not do this to other children. Only to sister. I do not give her any more attention than i give him , so i am really not sure why he is competing with her. He will run and grab any toy that she is playing with or move her out of the way to get whatever she has. The biting thing is really terrible though. She is so afraid of him. Anytime he starts coming towards her, she drops whatever she has in her hand and runs the other way!!!!!! I wish they would play nice together. I am thinking of putting them in "mom's day out" (really for me it should be called "kids day out" as i need it to help them learn to play nicely with other kids) Thinking of putting them in different classes. They are both around 2. This will be hard though since my son cries the entire time i leave him with anyone other than family that he sees on a weekly basis. Sister will not even know i am gone and she will have a good time. Any advice? Thank you!!!!!
My children did this too. It has helped that whenever my child would hurt their sibling I would tell them to be nice and show them how to touch their sibling nicely. I have also read to give the hurt child alot of love and exclude the other child. That way you aren't giving the offender attention. In my situation I notice that my kids hurt each other more to get my attention like when I am on the phone or visiting with others. They will stand just far enough away from me that I can't easily reach them and commence to pinch, pull each other's hair, etc. until I get off the phone and stop them. I also will put them in the bedroom alone to think about it until they say they will be nice. Mine are also both around two. My daughter is 2 yr 8 months and my son is almost 2.
Thank you ladybird!
Your reply gave me some ideas :)
I didn't realize it but i probably give the offender more attention because i am so upset with him and want him to stop bullying so badly.
I need to focus also on showing them how to touch nicely ( i do that with my cat and they actually pay attention. where they initially would hit her and pull her tail, they now know how to pet her nicely)
Thanks again, i need all the help i can get!!!!!!! Anyone else???? :)