I gave up a child

Originally Posted By bmom JamieYour son is probably afraid of making that first step too.

Originally Posted By MargoLet your child look for you! It's the adoptees right to search, and if they chose not to, you have to be prepared to accept that also! Sometimes we adoptees just want to be left alone!

Originally Posted By JoElaine,If you feel the need to know about your child, Go Ahead! But maybe if you find him/her before contacting them one on one, try to find someone (maybe a pastor or counselor) that will place the first call to see what the response will be. Give them the choice to meet you.(the worst thing you can do is SPRING yourself on him/her). Be prepared for any decision they might make. I know several adoptees. Many of them never want to meet birth family (their words!) but there is also some that does and would be overjoyed. At 22 that is a better age than at 16-17 when a child's life is so full of questions about their future at that moment. It would be insenitive to make them also have to deal with the past at that time in their life. But go far it! You never know till you try. It could be their prayer too.Just please be prepared to handle a rejection just in case. Not all adoptees will run with open arms.Good luck on your journey. Wishing you all the best.

Originally Posted By RachelI am one who is adopted. I have been searching for months now. I, like the son you gave up am 22. I don't know if I will have the open arms that you might be looking for, BUT i do have alot of unanswered questions. I also know that it is alot easier if you are both in search of eachother, the process doesn't take as long. Go ahead and give it a try, you may be suprised. Good luck, i hope the best for you.

Originally Posted By ReunitedBmomMy son was so afraid to make the first step... afraid he would disrupt my life. I was afraid I would disrupt his life, too. Figured it was my responsibility to at least open the door, since I was the one who closed it in the first place. He was glad I did. So was (am) I. Take a chance. Make it gentle and open. best wishes.-- Been there, done that, wish I had done it differently

Originally Posted By JessicaHey i am a 22 and when i was 21/2 i was adopted, so i am about the age of your son, I think you should make the first step to find him, even if he isn't outright searching for you and it is a negative meetint(which i doubt but you got to be prepared for) i think that would be better then not knowing

Originally Posted By Edna PowderI am a birthmother of 14 yrs. and searching, yes by all means you should search just enter your information into adoption registries. Iam a member of the canadian councel of bmothers we are on the internet and offer great support to get you going.Surely some day your son will want to know hir origins.