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Hi everyone,
I just found this forum and wanted to mention a couple of things.
I have often considered that adoption was definitely something that I wanted to do in my life. I often thought that I would marry first and have one or two biological children with my wife and then adopt. But I've decided recently that since I'm now 34 and still unmarried (with no prospects in the near future) that it would be better for me to start the adoption process now. This is not a decision that I made lightly, it took alot of time in prayer counseling with the Lord if this would be the right thing for me to do at this time. He has confirmed this decision. Of that I have no doubt.
I am looking to adopt a boy between 6 and 10 years old. I think would be the most realistic fit for me now. I am definitely not ready to raise a teenager yet. :)
One of the things that has concerned me is the Church's teachings on eternal families. I do want that and I do want my child to be part of an eternal family. However, there will be no mother (at least for now) for that to happen.
I'm the only member in my family. I am not sealed to my parents (they were divorced before I was 3 and my mom died when I was 6). From the time that my mom died, I was raised by my grandparents. My grandma is still alive but my grandpa died while I was serving my mission. So I can't be sealed to them yet either.
One of the ways that the Lord communicates with me is that often when I'm praying the thought will come of the number of a certain verse in the scriptures. I'll look up that scripture and find that it precisely answers the question that I had. Oftentimes it leads me to apply that scripture in a way that I hadn't even considered previously.
Well, recently I was counseling with the Lord about this subject of adopting a son, and what the status of our little family would then be in His eyes. When I asked about this, the Lord led me to Isaiah 56:5: "Even unto them will I give in mine house and within my walls a place and a name better than of sons and of daughters: I will give them an everlasting name, that shall not be cut off." I also decided to look at the previous verse, which made it clear that He was talking to those who could not have children (eunuchs).
I wanted to share that with you. I have just started the adoption process. I would appreciate any encouragement, advice, or assistance from the members of this forum as I go through this.
Roger
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Hi Roger,
I wish you the best in your pursuit! It might make a difference as to what state you are in as to how easy/difficult it might be. I know that some states have "easier" adoption laws than others. You could also look into a foster to adopt program through the state, they usually have many older children that are looking for a family.
I think that if you emphasize to your son that what you will have is an eternal family, he will understand that and look forward to it.
Good luck in your adventure!
LBL :)
I completely understand your counseling with the Lord about this subject. I'm a convert myself and would love to be a parent. I don't take things lightly. Along with counseling with the Lord I have spoken with my stake president. He has been a wise and supportive friend. I'm a little bit behind you in the process. I'm still praying and talking about it with a friend who has adopted 3 on her own. An LDS convert too. I can get advice on your behalf from her if you need. If you have any advice for me I would appreciate it. I hope for the best for you, let us know . . . SB